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Giving advice

Advice-giving makes it easy to misunderstand what the other really wants. People go to others for many reasons. Perhaps they want a chance to think out loud. Perhaps they simply want to vent and seek a sympathetic ear. Sometimes they just want support and empathy, rather than help figuring out a solution. The listener needs to be clear about what the other person wants.

If you are going to provide someone with advice, you have to understand the situation fully, really know what the other wants, and take their style and approach into account. Also, most importantly, set aside what you would do.

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