The real distress from an unpleasant situation comes from the reaction to the situation, not from the initial event itself.
If you can avoid reacting when uncontrollable events happen, you can reduce your stress and improve your effectiveness and well-being.
Hold your reaction and observe the situation with curiosity from a bird's eye view.
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Self-Regulation is the ability to stay calm and collected in the middle of a distressing situation.
Develop the skill to see the initial situation and your reaction to it separately. Self-regulation (self-calming) helps you recognize your emotions and not to react based on your emotions.
It's related to your ability to act instead of reacting when things don’t go your way.
Your reactivity impacts your attitude, performance, effectiveness and how others perceive you.
Reactive people believe the world is happening to them. They focus on things that are in their circle of concern, but not in their circle of influence.
Proactive people recognize that they are able to choose how they will respond to a given situation. They focus on the things they can do something about.
At the beginning of every week, write a two-by-two matrix on a blank sheet of paper.
One side of the matrix says "urgent" and "not urgent". The other side of the matrix says "important" and "not important."
Then, write all the things you want to do that week.
Wheter you're about to be interviewed for a job or you're feeling overwhelmed by your child's behaviour at the playground it's important to have some stress reduction tools that can lower your stress right now.
The best short-term strategies:
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