It is easy to be discouraged and overwhelmed by many problems in the society, to be demoralized by the many problems in our society and trauma that are all too pervasive in our world.our world is filled with so many kind, capable and creative people.We will continue to discover, invent and learn.We can make our world a safer , more just, and humane place for all.

What We Need Now 

We take our focus off the tragedy, move on with our lives, telling ourselves that “they” will be okay.The impact of trauma doesn’t simply fade away.We can help each other heal, but often assumptions about resilience and girt blind us to the healing that leads us down the painful path to wisdom.

Post Traumatic Wisdom 

Given love, the unloved can become loving .if you are loved , you learn to love The capacity to love is the core of the success of human kind, the reason we have survived on this planet is that we have been able to form and maintain effective groups. Isolated and disconnected, we are vulnerable.Relational glue keeps our species alive, and love is relational super glue.

How We Were Loved 

making the connection, finally understanding both cause and effect of myself is a game changer for me.As you consider your individual response patterns, know that by putting a small moment of space between the immediate feeling and your instinctive reaction, you are allowing yourself to stay in present and ultimately regain control.

Connecting The Dots 

Not only is “what happened to you?” The key question of you want to understand someone, you need to understand their brain.In other words, personal history, people and places in your life influences your brain development. The result is they each of the brains are unique. Our life experiences shape our lives and each one of us looks and perceives world in their own way.This is why asking “ What happened to you?” Is so important in understanding what’s going on with you now.

Making Sense Of The World.

How much do you think about your heart?since before you were born, that miraculous machine has been steadily pumping energy of life throughout your body. Day in, day out at least 115,000 beats each day, with sole purpose of keeping you alive.

Seeking Balance 

As you revisit your past, know that no matter what happened simply being here, alive makes you worthy. And know that there is hope.wellness is possible.It happens one moment, one step at a time.

The Spectrum Of Trauma 

What ever your past experience created in your brain, you can’t just delete them. You can’t get rid of the past.Therapy is more about new associations. This is why understanding how resume impacts your health for everyone.

From Coping To Healing 

Very often, “what happened” takes years to reveal itself. It takes courage to comfort our actions, peel back the layers of trauma in our lives and expose the raw truth of our past. But this is where healing begins

Our Brains, Our Biases, Our Systems 

This is where hope lives for all of us - the unique adaptability of our miraculous brains.what has happened to us in past shapes who are we , how we behave and how we do things.Through the lens we can build a renewed sense of self worth and ultimately recalibrate our responses to circumstances, situations and relationships.it is in other words, the key to reshape our lives.

What Happened To You?

Our earliest experiences shape our lives far down the road, and What Happened to You? provides powerful scientific and emotional insights into the behavioral patterns so many of us struggle to understand.

#1 NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER Our earliest experiences shape our lives far down the road, and What Happened to You? provides powerful scientific and emotional insights into the behavioral patterns so many of us struggle to understand. “Through this lens we can build a renewed sense of personal self-worth and ultimately recalibrate our responses to circumstances, situations, and relationships. It is, in other words, the key to reshaping our very lives.”—Oprah Winfrey This book is going to change the way you see your life. Have you ever wondered "Why did I do that?" or "Why can't I just control my behavior?" Others may judge our reactions and think, "What's wrong with that person?" When questioning our emotions, it's easy to place the blame on ourselves; holding ourselves and those around us to an impossible standard. It's time we started asking a different question. Through deeply personal conversations, Oprah Winfrey and renowned brain and trauma expert Dr. Bruce Perry offer a groundbreaking and profound shift from asking “What’s wrong with you?” to “What happened to you?” Here, Winfrey shares stories from her own past, understanding through experience the vulnerability that comes from facing trauma and adversity at a young age. In conversation throughout the book, she and Dr. Perry focus on understanding people, behavior, and ourselves. It’s a subtle but profound shift in our approach to trauma, and it’s one that allows us to understand our pasts in order to clear a path to our future—opening the door to resilience and healing in a proven, powerful way.

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ONE MILLION COPIES SOLD #1 NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER Our earliest experiences shape our lives far down the road, and What Happened to You? provides powerful scientific and emotional insights into the behavioral patterns so many of us struggle to understand. “Through this lens we can build a renewed sense of personal self-worth and ultimately recalibrate our responses to circumstances, situations, and relationships. It is, in other words, the key to reshaping our very lives.”—Oprah Winfrey This book is going to change the way you see your life. Have you ever wondered "Why did I do that?" or "Why can't I just control my behavior?" Others may judge our reactions and think, "What's wrong with that person?" When questioning our emotions, it's easy to place the blame on ourselves; holding ourselves and those around us to an impossible standard. It's time we started asking a different question. Through deeply personal conversations, Oprah Winfrey and renowned brain and trauma expert Dr. Bruce Perry offer a groundbreaking and profound shift from asking “What’s wrong with you?” to “What happened to you?” Here, Winfrey shares stories from her own past, understanding through experience the vulnerability that comes from facing trauma and adversity at a young age. In conversation throughout the book, she and Dr. Perry focus on understanding people, behavior, and ourselves. It’s a subtle but profound shift in our approach to trauma, and it’s one that allows us to understand our pasts in order to clear a path to our future—opening the door to resilience and healing in a proven, powerful way.

As the visionary and leader behind OWN: Oprah Winfrey Network and formerly the supervising producer and host of the top-rated, award-winning “The Oprah Winfrey Show,” Oprah has entertained and inspired millions of viewers to live their best lives. Her accomplishments as a global media leader and philanthropist have established her as one of the most respected and admired public figures today.

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Bruce D. Perry is an American psychiatrist, currently the senior fellow of the Child Trauma Academy in Houston, Texas and an adjunct professor of psychiatry and behavioral sciences at the Feinberg School of Medicine in Chicago, Illinois.