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10 Laws of Boundaries

  1. The Law of Sowing and Reaping
  2. The Law of Responsibility
  3. The Law of Power
  4. The Law of Respect
  5. The Law of Motivation
  6. The Law of Evaluation
  7. The Law of Proactivity
  8. The Law of Envy
  9. The Law of Activity
  10. The Law of Exposure

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“Things can hurt and not harm us. In fact they can even be good for us. And things that feel good can be very harmful to us.”

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“Anger is frustration at the fact that we are not God, and do not have control over reality.” 

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#7: The Law of Proactivity

"For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction."

Do not try to get to freedom without owning your reactive period and feelings. You do not need to act this out, but you do need to express the feelings. You need to practice and gain assertiveness. You need to get far eno...

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#9: The Law of Activity

When a baby bird is ready to hatch, if you break the egg for the bird, it will die. The bird must peck its own way out of the egg into the world. This aggressive “workout” strengthens the bird, allowing it to function in the outside world. Robbed of this responsibility, it will die.

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HENRY CLOUD

"The most basic boundary-setting word is “no.” It lets others know that we exist apart from them and that we are in control of ourselves.”

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"When one person is in control of another, love cannot grow deeply and fully, as there is no freedom.”  

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#10: The Law of Exposure

A boundary is a property line. It defines where you begin and end. We have been discussing why you need such a line. One reason stands above all the others: You do not exist in a vacuum. You exist in relation to God and others. Your boundaries define you in relation to others.

The L...

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“True intimacy is only build around the freedom to disagree.”

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#6: The Law of Evaluation

You need to evaluate the effects of setting boundaries and be responsible to the other person, but that does not mean you should avoid setting boundaries because someone responds with hurt or anger.

We need to evaluate the pain our confrontation causes other people. We need...

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#3: The Law of Power

  1. Confession: You have the power to agree with the truth about your problems.
  2. You have the power to submit your inability to God. 
  3. You have the power to search and ask God and others to reveal more and more about what is within your boundaries.

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What is Boundaries

Boundaries are just like a 'property line in one's life'. Just like in real life you have a property and the property line. Whatever is inside the property line is your responsibility and you have control over those. If anything bad happens there then you will feel sorrow for that. 

Boundar...

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#1: The Law of Sowing and Reaping

“You reap whatever you sow. If you sow to your own flesh, you will reap corruption from the flesh; but if you sow to the Spirit, you will reap eternal life from the Spirit”

 Sometimes, however, people don’t reap what they sow, because someone else steps in ...

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Creating Boundaries

  1. Say 'NO' to bad
  2. Avoid saying 'NO' to good.
  3. Respect other's boundaries (when they say 'NO')

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#4: The Law of Respect

We fear that others will not respect our boundaries. We focus on others and lose clarity about ourselves.

If we love and respect people who tell us no, they will love and respect our no. Freedom begets freedom.

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#2: The Law of Responsibility

Many times when people hear a talk on boundaries and taking responsibility for their own lives, they say, “That’s so self-centered. We should love one another and deny ourselves.” Or, they actually become selfish and self-centered. Or, they feel “guilty” when they do someone a favor. 

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#8: The Law of Envy

Your envy should always be a sign to you that you are lacking something. At that moment, you should ask God to help you understand what you resent, why you do not have whatever you are envying, and whether you truly desire it. Ask him to show you what you need to do to get there, or to give up th...

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#5: The Law of Motivation

These false motives and others keep us from setting boundaries: 

  1. Fear of loss of love, or abandonment. 
  2. Fear of others’ anger.
  3. Fear of loneliness. 
  4. Fear of losing the “good me” inside.
  5. Guilt
  6. Payback.
  7. Approval
  8.  Overidentification w...

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