deepstash

Beta

The Science of Soulmates | Science of People

Destiny beliefs vs. growth beliefs

Destiny beliefs vs. growth beliefs
  • Destiny Beliefs: I am destined to be with a specific person. I have a soulmate. 
  • Growth Beliefs: Relationships progress slowly and we grow to fit together. Relationships take effort. You can build love.

People who believe in soulmates are more likely to break up and have difficult relationships because they look for the 'perfect' person instead of working on a relationship and growing together.

68 SAVES


This is a professional note extracted from an online article.

Read more efficiently

Save what inspires you

Remember anything

IDEA EXTRACTED FROM:

The Science of Soulmates | Science of People

The Science of Soulmates | Science of People

https://www.scienceofpeople.com/soulmate/

scienceofpeople.com

4

Key Ideas

Destiny beliefs vs. growth beliefs

  • Destiny Beliefs: I am destined to be with a specific person. I have a soulmate. 
  • Growth Beliefs: Relationships progress slowly and we grow to fit together. Relationships take effort. You can build love.

People who believe in soulmates are more likely to break up and have difficult relationships because they look for the 'perfect' person instead of working on a relationship and growing together.

Patterns

Have you been overcome by a break-up? Do you run the moment you have trouble in your relationship?

Examine your relationship patterns and connect them to your idea about soulmates. If you are a destiny believer, see if it serves you. If you are a growth believer, examine if you can learn from it.

Changeable or Unchangeable

There is a distinction between a fundamental value difference in a relationship and an annoyance.

Think about your deal breakers. Were they fixable? Compromise-able? Changeable?

Adaptation is Advancement

When you love someone, you grow for them, you grow with them, you change together. It is a sign of strength, not weakness.

EXPLORE MORE AROUND THESE TOPICS:

SIMILAR ARTICLES & IDEAS:

Love at first sight is based on imagination
Love at first sight is based on imagination

Most people understand love at first sight to be falling in love with a stranger when they see them for the first time. But love at first sight is based on stereotypes, imagination, and ass...

What makes a stranger stand out to you

If you have experienced love at first sight, think what made the stranger stand out to you.

  • Did the person resemble someone you had a relationship with before?
  • Did the person cause you to feel nostalgic about an old friend? If so, that "love" may have been only a subconscious connection, where your brain remembered a positive impact of a previous relationship.
Our subconscious mind connects facial features with characteristics

Knowing this, you may understand why some are certain about the possibility of love at first sight.

But it doesn't make the potential resulting breakup easier. It leaves us feeling like we lost something destiny had intended.

2 more ideas

The soulmate

It’s an ancient Greek ideal that a predestined better half is out there. Once found, he or she will bring eternal bliss.

Believing your partner was made just for you can reduce your trou...

Long-term commitments

The idea of a soulmate might be a detrimental way to look at relationships. 

Those who believe in soulmates tend to be less satisfied when they think of the conflicts in their relationships. In the soulmate frame, conflicts are bad and a sign that they are possibly not the perfect fit.

Building a strong relationship

Arriving at a strong place of comfort and trust in a relationship takes effort. 

Com­munication, collaboration and constructive conflict resolution build and sustain happy and fulfilling relationships despite not being a perfect fit from the outset. 

one more idea

Believing in the soulmate concept

If you are in love with the person, believing that you are soulmates can strengthen the relationship.

However, if you are to end a relationship with someone who you thought was your soulmate,...

The existence of soulmates

Soulmates are only an artificial construct in our minds as a result of the movies we see and the songs we listen to.