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Adaptation is Advancement

When you love someone, you grow for them, you grow with them, you change together. It is a sign of strength, not weakness.

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Destiny beliefs vs. growth beliefs
  • Destiny Beliefs: I am destined to be with a specific person. I have a soulmate. 
  • Growth Beliefs: Relationships progress slowly and we grow to fit together. Relationships take effort. You can build love.

People who believe in soulmates are more likely to break up and have difficult relationships because they look for the 'perfect' person instead of working on a relationship and growing together.

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Have you been overcome by a break-up? Do you run the moment you have trouble in your relationship?

Examine your relationship patterns and connect them to your idea about soulmates. If you are a destiny believer, see if it serves you. If you are a growth believer, examine if you can learn from it.

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There is a distinction between a fundamental value difference in a relationship and an annoyance.

Think about your deal breakers. Were they fixable? Compromise-able? Changeable?

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Believing in the soulmate concept

If you are in love with the person, believing that you are soulmates can strengthen the relationship.

However, if you are to end a relationship with someone who you thought was your soulmate, can make the recovery almost impossible.

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Believing in luck

Luck is a hard thing to prove. There is no real thing we can call luck, but we can create a real object and transfer luck to it, such as a lucky penny or a lucky charm.

These lucky objects give the feeling of a security blanket. They provide an illusion of control for the person who believes in them.

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The soulmate

It’s an ancient Greek ideal that a predestined better half is out there. Once found, he or she will bring eternal bliss.

Believing your partner was made just for you can reduce your trouble in a relationship to fate.

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