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Stop Extrapolating Your Perceptions - Darius Foroux

Extrapolating our thoughts

A few examples of how we extrapolate our exceptions all the time:

  • “House prices will probably keep increasing.”
  • “That person will never change.”
  • “My business will keep growing.”
  • “I will never learn from my mistakes.”
  • “He doesn’t like me.”

The root of this problem is our quick judgment.

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Extrapolating our thoughts

A few examples of how we extrapolate our exceptions all the time:

  • “House prices will probably keep increasing.”
  • “That person will never change.”
  • “My business will keep growing.”
  • “I will never learn from my mistakes.”
  • “He doesn’t like me.”

The root of this problem is our quick judgment.

We’re fast thinkers

But that doesn’t mean we should follow through on every single thought that pops into our mind.

Every time you start thinking about future events or start making mental movies, keep count on a post-it note or a small piece of paper. Be aware of your thoughts. But don’t follow through.

Ryan Holiday

Ryan Holiday

“It takes skill and discipline to bat away the pests of bad perceptions, to separate reliable signals from deceptive ones, to filter out prejudice, expectation, and fear.”

Do your own thing

Ask yourself: What’s within my control? Is there something I can do right now? Can I make the situation better? Then do it. And do the job well. 

If you can’t, choose to do something else. Have different things in your life that you can give your attention to. For example: learn a new skill, get some exercise, work on your goals.

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