First, find your projections by making a list of how you judge someone else. Don't sugarcoat or overexplain: "I judge [person] as [judgement]."

Find your projections

Projection is a psychological term for how we tend to put our own issues onto other people.Often the thing that frustrates us the most about other people is indicative of a part of us we haven't accepted yet.

Work on Your Projections

Set intentions going forward that you will accept this part of yourself but also take steps to make healthier choices that are grounded in self-compassion and respect.

Set new intentions

Take a deep look at how that judgement applies to you. Say to yourself: "I can see and accept that I can be [judgement] too, and that's okay."

Transfer the judgement to yourself

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