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4 Ways to Stop Seeking Out Approval at Work
Accept Rejection
See disapproval as a form of feedback, as information you can use to improve and make your next performance even stronger. It also helps to also re-frame rejection as something positive.
It means you’re moving forward and pushing limits, rather than just staying in your comfort zone.
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Prepare for rejection
Always have a rejection-processing protocol in place. Debrief with personal and professional support people who can empathize and appreciate your experiences without passing judgment, criticizing o...
Find the blessings in rejection
In many cases, rejections are blessings in disguise. Maybe you don't want those customers that rejected your product.
Refer and direct those customers to your competitors that fit their needs. They certainly would not forget the lengths you went to. Such service is rare.
Feed your growth mindset
You might initially doubt yourself, question your competency and your self-worth but after you have weathered the storm, activate your growth mindset and start asking questions:
What can I do differently? What have I discovered about myself? What changes can I make? What will I do differently next time?
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Acknowledge Your Emotions
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Rejection And Pushing Limits
For mentally strong people, rejection serves as proof that they're living life to the fullest. They expect to be rejected sometimes, and they're not afraid to go for it, even when they suspect it may be a long shot.
If you never get rejected, you may be living too far inside your comfort zone.
Treat Yourself With Compassion
Rather than think, "You're so stupid for thinking you could do that," mentally strong people treat themselves with compassion.
They respond to negative self-talk with a kinder, more affirming message.
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Fear of rejection
The main reason why we are having a hard time declining other people's requests is that we are afraid to be rejected. We are afraid that people might think negatively.
Stop Saying Yes When You Want to Say No
- Saying No Doesn’t Mean You’re a Bad Person: Saying no doesn't mean that you are being rude, selfish, or unkind. These are all unhelpful beliefs that make it hard to say no. Learning where these beliefs have come from is a great way to learn to let go of them.
- Knowing Your Value: Learning to say no is realizing that you are valuable and choosing your own opinion about yourself over others.
- Is It Really Worth It?: Learning to say no is also deciding if saying yes is really worth it. Think about the anguish, stress, and resentment that saying yes has caused you. Wouldn't it be so much easier and straightforward to just say no in the first place?
Helpful Tips for Saying No
- Be direct.
- Don't apologize and give all sorts of reasons.
- Be honest.
- Don't delay your response.
- Be polite.
- Practice saying no. This will get you feeling a lot more comfortable with saying no.
- Know your worth. Don't mind what other think of you.