It’s a waste of your time and energy to try to fix other people because they’re not interested in becoming any other way than they are.

Don’t try to fix people

Get to know yourself as best you can. Become familiar and comfortable with your own beliefs, emotions, feelings, and ideas.

Know thyself

Stay away from anyone who thinks nothing of invading your space for their own end.

Heed the warning signs

<ul><li>Not allowing you to speak or be heard.</li><li>Yelling at you.</li><li>Saying things that are derogatory about your integrity and character.</li><li>Gossiping about you.</li></ul>

Verbal violations

Understand that your boundaries are different from others.You can learn to be emotionally attached to others while remaining psychologically and intellectually detached. This kind of space allows for personal expression while minimizing emotional and psychological entanglement.

Separate yourself from others

You don’t need to feel that you owe anyone anything more than you want to give with your free and conscious heart.If anyone invades your boundaries, be ready to walk away without fear or guilt.

You are in charge of your choices

When you respect yourself, you should expect that others will treat you with respect. If they don’t, that’s a clear sign not to engage.

Develop a healthy respect for yourself

Develop the capacity to know what needs to be done for yourself.By setting your own boundaries, you are setting your limits about who can come into your space and what you expect of others once they’re there.

Take responsibility for yourself

<ul><li>Preying upon your sense of self and self-esteem</li><li>Using what you’ve told them in confidence against you</li><li>Lying to you</li><li>Criticizing you</li><li>Manipulating you</li><li>Mocking you</li><li>Making demands of your time</li><li>Bullying you</li><li>Lording a superior attitude over you</li></ul>

Psychological/emotional boundary violations

<ul><li>Moving into your personal space</li><li>Touching you without permission</li><li>Being inappropriate or too familiar towards you</li><li>Violating your privacy</li><li>Damaging or destroying your personal property</li><li>Threatening you with physical harm</li></ul>

Physical violations

A healthy relationship requires the space to be yourself and to maintain your personal integrity. Most people will respect your boundaries when you explain what they are and will expect that you will do the same for them; it's a two-way street. Not so with people who don't understand where you end and they begin.

Take responsibility for yourself

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