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What is Self-Reliance and How to Develop It?

Develop Self-Reliance

  • Accept yourself and be your own best friend.
  • Develop the ability to feel confident in yourself.
  • Practice making your own decisions.
  • Recognize and manage dependence.
  • Accept yourself for who you are.
  • Don't rely on 'things' to feel happy.
  • Decide who you want to be, and how you want to get there.

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Self-Reliance

It's "a reliance on internal resources to provide life with coherence (meaning) and fulfillment” (Baumeister, 1987: 171)."

Ralph Waldo Emerson and Self-Reliance

Self-Reliance is the topic (and title) of an 1841 essay from US philosopher Ralph Waldo Emerson.

He argues strongly that self-reliance, self-trust, and individualism, amongst other things, are ways that we can avoid the conformity imposed upon us.

Examples of Self-Reliance

  • Thinking independently: The ability to think autonomously goes hand in hand with trusting your own instinct.
  • Embracing your individuality.
  • Striving towards your own goals, bravely.

It’s important to remember that self-reliance is not about cutting yourself off from everybody.

Benefits of Self-Reliance

  • Depending on others for help means there will be times when it’s not available.
  • You can solve problems and make decisions for yourself.
  • You feel happy by yourself, in yourself, and about yourself—without needing to rely on others.
  • You develop self-acceptance.
  • It encourages you to practice self-compassion and self-knowledge.
  • It gives you perspective and direction.

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