Allow yourself to experience your envy fully, process it, and work through it. Begin by naming your feelings.

• Envy can be accompanied by embarrassment, disappointment, sadness, anger, or regret — so be as specific as possible. The goal here is to pay attention to your emotions without shame or judgment when they show up.
• Remember that there are no good or bad emotions, and no emotion is permanent. Every emotional experience is an opportunity for you to gather information about your deep-seated needs and desires — and eventually, use that information to guide your actions.

Once you acknowledge, label, and validate your emotions, let them guide you to explore the motivations and fears driving them.

Think about what these rejections mean to you. While this self-reflection will not be an easy task, working through your feelings and understanding...