How to Form the Decisiveness Habit : zen habits
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These are some of the common ways we habitually deal with the uncertainty of a decision. But none of them solve the problem for us:
... that that will lead to greater decisiveness:
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The way you frame your decision at the outset can make all the difference.
State your decision problems carefully, acknowledge their complexity and avoid unwarranted assumptions ...
A decision is a means to an end. Ask yourself what you most want to accomplish and which of your interests, values, concerns, fears, and aspirations are most relevant to achieving your goal.
Decisions with multiple objectives cannot be resolved by focusing on any one objective.
Your decision can be no better than your best alternative.
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Take each option in your decision and make two lists for each; on one side, you'll have all the benefits of an option and on the other, you'll have all the downsides.
Try to give your list a sense of scale. This can help you think through all the positives and negatives of all your options, and help you visualize the generally best candidate.
Imagine your friend telling you the problem using only the most important information, and think about what you might say in return.
Imaging your own advice if you were counseling a friend on making the decision can help you understand what an outsider's perspective might be.
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This means that once we’ve mis-stepped, we use it as justification to go all out. One bad decision can snowball into bigger consequences, making us temporarily lose sight of our ultimate goal.
Be aware of your actions and way of thinking. And if you make a mistake, dust yourself off, learn from your mistakes and move forward.
And we ignore the profound impact these seemingly inconsequential decisions have on our brain and our life.
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