MARK MANSON
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Patience is not the ability to wait for something. Patience is our attitude towards waiting.
And the truth is we are becoming more and more impatient, mostly because we are now used to have everything at our fingertips, 24/7.
Block out time to be still. Finding moments of stillness in our lives increases creativity, makes us more productive and also helps us stay grounded in our emotions.
Impatience could be linked to a deeply-rooted sense of entitlement. Because in reality, we don’t know what’s going on with other people.
Maybe the pizza guy got in a car accident. Maybe your partner didn’t sleep last night because they’re so anxious about an important work meeting.
Waiting means experiencing a certain period of time without any reward. And we have to truly understand the kind of rewards we are seeking: internal or external.
The true rewards in life are the ones that bring us the most meaning. And internal ones make it easier for us to spend time in our own thoughts and enjoying the fact of simply being.
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- Stopping rewards to an undesirable behavior while rewarding desirable behaviors.
- Positively reinforcing a less preferred activity with a more preferred activities.
- Giving a prompt, a stimulus that encourages the desired behavior. Then reinforcing any approximation to the target response; that’s called shaping.
- He was a French psychologist who partially contributed to the formation of IQ test - the objective measurement for intelligence;
- He studied physiology after getting his law degree in 1878, then worked at a neurological clinic in Paris in 1880s, then pursued a long term career in research and became a director of the Sorbonne; and
- Has published over 200 books and articles on diverse subject matters;
People instinctually appreciate people whose public persona matches their private values.
When someone professes to be one way but lives contrary to that profession, it signals that they are confused or untrustworthy and thereby, inauthentic.