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How to Be Patient in an Impatient World

Understand your impatience

Impatience could be linked to a deeply-rooted sense of entitlement. Because in reality, we don’t know what’s going on with other people.

Maybe the pizza guy got in a car accident. Maybe your partner didn’t sleep last night because they’re so anxious about an important work meeting.

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How to Be Patient in an Impatient World

How to Be Patient in an Impatient World

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Waiting patiently

Patience is not the ability to wait for something. Patience is our attitude towards waiting.

And the truth is we are becoming more and more impatient, mostly because we are now used to have everything at our fingertips, 24/7.

Mark Manson

Mark Manson

"Patience wins in an impatient world. When everyone else is in a hurry and distracted by the latest Tweetstorm, sitting back and merely observing the planet’s slow, arcing trajectory–and noticing it has been unmoved by almost anything that has happened lately–is the supreme advantage, both in terms of getting ahead, but also just in becoming a stable and non-insane person."

Learn to be still

Block out time to be still. Finding moments of stillness in our lives increases creativity, makes us more productive and also helps us stay grounded in our emotions.

Understand your impatience

Impatience could be linked to a deeply-rooted sense of entitlement. Because in reality, we don’t know what’s going on with other people.

Maybe the pizza guy got in a car accident. Maybe your partner didn’t sleep last night because they’re so anxious about an important work meeting.

The real value of time

Waiting means experiencing a certain period of time without any reward. And we have to truly understand the kind of rewards we are seeking: internal or external.

The true rewards in life are the ones that bring us the most meaning. And internal ones make it easier for us to spend time in our own thoughts and enjoying the fact of simply being.

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