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The tricks to make yourself effortlessly charming

Direct your charm

Charm is defined as your likability - how pleasant it is to interact with you.

And it is possible to train yourself to be charming.

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The tricks to make yourself effortlessly charming

The tricks to make yourself effortlessly charming

https://www.bbc.com/worklife/article/20170627-the-tricks-to-make-yourself-effortlessly-charming

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Likeability is a quick judgment

We make judgments about someone’s likeability, trustworthiness and competence after seeing their face for less than a tenth of a second.

Making snap judgments might determine who we vote for. It can also influence our financial decisions. 

Put on a happy face

A happier face conveys trustworthiness. People will consider a smiling face as more trustworthy, warmer and sociable.

Not all is lost if your first impression has not been as good as you hoped. If you can impress someone afterwards, they will often not remember their first impression of you.

Direct your charm

Charm is defined as your likability - how pleasant it is to interact with you.

And it is possible to train yourself to be charming.

Raising eyebrows

Charm starts with the simple flash of the eyebrows, a slight head tilt, and a smile.

Next, make your interaction about the other person - if you make people feel good about themselves, they're going to like you.

You can also give the impression of interest by focussing on the different colors in their eyes.

Find common ground

Charming people are able to find common ground, even when they differ in opinion.

When you disagree, try to really listen to the other person instead of formulating your response. You might agree on a few things.

Also, keep up with current events and industry news as those are the things most people have in common.

Body language awareness

When people are speaking, they begin to mirror one another. You can use that and copy their body language, so you can signal to them that you have a good understanding of what they're saying. If you change your own position and the other person copies you, the conversation is probably going well. If you are in sales, that is the moment to start your pitch.

Also, don't disclose too much information about yourself. Gradually reveal details that will continue to keep them curious about you.

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Show genuine interest

Maintain eye contact. Smile when the other person smiles. Frown when they frown.

In simple, nonverbal ways, mimic the other's person's behavior--not slavishly, but because you're focus...

Show a little vulnerability

Charming people are confident enough to be unafraid to show a little vulnerability. They're even willing to admit a weakness or a failure.

They know that while some people may be, at least temporarily, impressed by what's artificial, everyone sincerely likes and appreciates the genuine.

Search for agreement instead of contradiction

Charming people don't actively (or unknowingly) look to disagree; they look for points of agreement. 

Then, if it's appropriate, they gently share a different point of view, and in that way, help create an outstanding conversation.

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Be Yourself And Be Ready For Rejection

Be Yourself And Be Ready For Rejection

Having charm is not about deceiving others. Keep strong negative feelings to yourself, do your best to reveal who you are and if you disagree with something, do so nicely.

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Be Swift and Sweet

Keep the conversation moving at a comfortable but somewhat brisk pace. Don’t cut the conversation short if things are going well, but also avoid hitting uncomfortable lulls. So when the pace starts to die down, it's time to make an exit.

On your way out make sure that the other remembers you. 

A Simple Touch Can Go A Long Way

Touch is a physical way of indicating acceptance and if properly timed it can be very charming

There's nothing wrong with a handshake when you introduce yourself, but beyond that, don't abuse touch. Stick to safe zones like the outside of the arm and upper back, and when in doubt, just stick to those handshakes.

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Make People Feel Important

A charming person makes everyone, regardless of their status, feel important. People around them feel heard, understood, and worthy of their time.

Remember Names

It feels good to hear our own names, and when someone uses it we're more likely to pay greater attention to them.

Use mnemonic devices if you have a hard time remembering names.

Compliment With Confidence

When someone known for their charisma compliments you, it gives the impression that it is not only sincere but valuable, because of their natural confidence.

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