You’re always expecting the worst
There’s a big difference between being realistic about your chances of something happening and constantly catastrophising that nothing is going to go your way.
Not only does it reinforce negative behaviours that eat away at your potential for success, feeling like a “failure” or “disappointment” allows guilt and frustration to spiral.
Those who self-sabotage are likely to use things like “I’ll probably fail anyway” as an excuse not to try and therefore avoid any potential rejection or embarrassment.
“𝑻𝒉𝒆 𝒍𝒊𝒇𝒆 𝒐𝒇 𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒔 𝒘𝒐𝒓𝒍𝒅 𝒊𝒔 𝒎𝒆𝒓𝒆𝒍𝒚 𝒆𝒏𝒋𝒐𝒚𝒎𝒆𝒏𝒕 𝒐𝒇 𝒅𝒆𝒍𝒖𝒔𝒊𝒐𝒏.” 𝑸𝒖𝒓𝒂𝒏 3:185
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