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Cultivating self-awareness and self-reflection
Prioritizing and setting boundaries for self-care
Practicing mindfulness and presence
2) Change Is Frightening
Fear of the unknown can result in clinging to status quo behaviours.
Strategy: Examine the consequences
Compare all possible consequences of both your status quo & desired behaviors. If there are more positive results bound with the new behavior, your fears are unwarranted.
e.g. still unpunctual? -> chance to be fired -> greater benefit to changing than to not changing.
Str: Prepare your observers
New behaviors can frighten the people observing them, so introduce them slowly.
Str: Be realistic
Unrealistic goals increase fear. Fear increases the probability of failure.
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5) Slower Is Better
Everything has its own natural speed; when altered, unpleasant things happen. Change is most effective when it occurs slowly, allowing behaviors to become automatic.
Str: Establish calm
Life is like a stirred-up lake: Allow it to calm and the mud will settle,...
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4) Being Is Easier Than Becoming
Uncomfortable change becomes punishing & people don't continue activities that are more painful than rewarding.
Str:Take baby steps
Research:participants were more successful when their goals were gradually approximated
Write down the behavior ...
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9) New Behaviors Must Be Protected
Even when flawlessly performed, new behaviors are fragile and disappear if unprotected.
Str: Control your environment
Environmental issues such as noise & level of alertness may interfere with learning new behaviors. After identifying what helps and what hind...
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Change Must Be Positive -part2
Str: Admire the outcome
An act doesn't have to be enjoyable when the end result is extrinsically reinforcing.
-> enjoy the payoff from your work
E.g. I ...
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The 10 Rules of Change
Have you always wanted to change your life, but you don’t know how to begin or make it into a reality?
After 25 years of researching change expert Stan Goldberg, Ph.D lays out 10 major principles that cover all the strategies which you need for successful change.
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6)Know More, Do Better
Surprise spells disaster for people seeking change.Knowing more about the process allows more control over it.
Str: Monitor your behaviors
Some therapists insist on awareness of both current & desired behaviors, but research suggests it's sufficient to be awa...
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7) Change Requires Structure
Str:Identify what works
Classify all activities, materials you're using as either helpful/neutral/unhelpful in achieving your goal. Eliminate unhelpful ones, make neutrals into positives & keep / increase the positives.
Str:Revisit your plan regularly...
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8) Practice Is Necessary
Practice is another key approach to change & the majority of failures occur because this principle is ignored. Practice makes new behaviors automatic and a natural part of who we are.
Str: Use helpers
Not all behaviors can be learned on your own. Sometimes it...
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Small Successes Are Big
Unfortunately, plans for big successes often result in big failures. Focus instead on a series of small successes. Each little success builds your reservoir of self-esteem; one big failure devastates it.
Str: Map your success
Approach each step as a separate ...
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3) Change Must Be Positive
Reinforcement - not punishment - is necessary for permanent change. Reinforcement can be intrinsic, extrinsic or extraneous.
One type of reinforcement must be present for self-change, 2 would be better than one, & 3 would be best.
Str: Enjoy the act...
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1) All Behaviours Are Complex
Strategy: Break down the behavior
Change occurs in stages. To increase the overall probability of success, divide a behavior into parts and learn each part successively.
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