How to Build Self-Esteem (And Does it Even Matter?) | Mark Manson
People with low self-esteem tend to be hard on themselves and take everything very personally.
When you catch yourself being very critical of yourself, stop. Take a step back and see the situation from the viewpoint of a good friend. Ask yourself if it is really that bad. Remember that there are things you can't control.
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The most common symptoms are:
Lesser-known symptoms are being a workaholic, and either overachieving or underachieving.
Causes of low self-esteem are often traced back to negative early childhood experiences, such as frequent punishment or neglect, chronic abuse, bullying, and lack of affection.
We form our bottom line (how people treat us) in childhood. Based on the bottom line, we form our "Rules for Living," which are strategies for dealing with life.
Our inner Demons, or inner voices, make us do irrational, stupid and selfish things, based out of fear.
We hide and distract ourselves from our inner voice, which is nothing but our fear and insecurities, talking to us.
Some of our common 'demons' are:
Our inner demons lead us to negatively judge ourselves, further leading to avoiding that judgment, and eventually starting the internal self-destruction, if the negative downward spiral is left unchecked.
“Life is essentially an endless series of problems—the solution to one problem is merely the creation of the next..."
Life is full of paradoxes, and anything and everything that we hope for or desire only leads to more anxiety and stress, creating new problems for us.
We can be content. But it's not simple. To understand why we seem to be constantly dissatisfied with ourselves and the world, we must understand some basic psychological principles.
Our behavior, contentment, desires, expectations, and body clocks are set differently, and this may lead to conflicts and problems with others.