Judging Mindfully
Traits we will not tolerate within ourselves, we will not tolerate in others. It is a choice we make. We should make those choices consciously and not without thinking.
It’s why corrupt officials choose to be corrupt: because they assume everyone else is as corrupt as they are. It’s why cheaters choose to cheat. It’s why those who can’t trust are the ones who can’t be trusted.
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There are many ways we choose to measure the value of our own lives, be it money or popularity of family or good deeds.
The way you measure yourself is how you measure others, and how you assume others measure you.
If you measure your life by how much you’ve traveled, then you will measure other people by the same standard.
Recognize how you measure yourself and consciously choose your metric. Also, realize that everyone has their own criteria that will not be the same as yours.
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Everyone has their own reality. The concept of a “personal brand” is to let others know who you are because if you don't, others will.
But, the reality is that although you can guide people, you can't fully manage how they'll perceive you. Everyone has their own reality and their own interpretation of the facts, their environment, and other people.
Toxic self-esteem is easy to notice. One can see a disconnect between how the person sees himself, and how the world sees him.
It is your coworker who’s incompetent in their job but takes credit for other people’s work.
Those with a toxic self-esteem feel good about themselves but are very fragile. In order to keep up their self-esteem, they need to constantly feed it.