Recognize our own fixation
Recognize how you measure yourself and consciously choose your metric. Also, realize that everyone has their own criteria that will not be the same as yours.
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There are many ways we choose to measure the value of our own lives, be it money or popularity of family or good deeds.
The way you measure yourself is how you measure others, and how you assume others measure you.
If you measure your life by how much you’ve traveled, then you will measure other people by the same standard.
Traits we will not tolerate within ourselves, we will not tolerate in others. It is a choice we make. We should make those choices consciously and not without thinking.
It’s why corrupt officials choose to be corrupt: because they assume everyone else is as corrupt as they are. It’s why cheaters choose to cheat. It’s why those who can’t trust are the ones who can’t be trusted.
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Although we cannot dictate people's reality, we can choose to surround ourselves with people who see things similarly.
You can choose a partner who does see you as a complete "someone" and values you as much as they value themselves.
The theory is that if everyone has high self-esteem, then everyone will be successful and live a happy life. If a society was inoculated with high self-esteem, it would end poverty, crime, and violence.
But, one should take into account that high self-esteem could be the result of success, not necessarily the cause. Also, thinking that only one thing can explain how to be successful, is probably naive.