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How We Judge Others is How We Judge Ourselves

Recognize our own fixation

Recognize how you measure yourself and consciously choose your metric. Also, realize that everyone has their own criteria that will not be the same as yours. 

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How We Judge Others is How We Judge Ourselves

How We Judge Others is How We Judge Ourselves

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Why We Judge Others

There are many ways we choose to measure the value of our own lives, be it money or popularity of family or good deeds.

The way you measure yourself is how you measure others, and how you assume others measure you.

If you measure your life by how much you’ve traveled, then you will measure other people by the same standard. 

Judging Mindfully

Traits we will not tolerate within ourselves, we will not tolerate in others. It is a choice we make. We should make those choices consciously and not without thinking.

It’s why corrupt officials choose to be corrupt: because they assume everyone else is as corrupt as they are. It’s why cheaters choose to cheat. It’s why those who can’t trust are the ones who can’t be trusted.

Recognize our own fixation

Recognize how you measure yourself and consciously choose your metric. Also, realize that everyone has their own criteria that will not be the same as yours. 

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