Our minds may grow unoriginal. We grow depressed about everything because we are sad about something.  We can no longer sleep because we omitted to process all the thoughts of the day.   We avoid processing emotions because what we feel is opposite to our self-image and threatening to our society's ideas of normality. However, we need compassion for ourselves.

We pay dearly for failing to process our feelings

We fail to know ourselves simply because it hurts a lot. Processing emotions requires good friends, therapists and ritual moments like meditation, where we can drop our defences.  When we process our emotions, we always feel elevated in our overall mood. But first, we must go through a period of mourning where we acknowledge that life is sadder than we want it to be.

Why we fail to know ourselves

Not every emotion we carry is fully acknowledged, understood or felt. Some feelings are 'unprocessed' from within. For example, many of our uninterpreted worries may show up as powerful directionless anxiety. Someone may have abused our trust or violated our self-esteem. We may feel compelled to remain busy, fear spending time on our own or do activities that ensure we don't meet what scares us head-on. These activities can include internet pornography, tracking the news or exercising compulsively.

We don't understand our emotions

In order to be calm and at ease with ourselves, we need regular periods where we do something rather strange-sounding: process our emotions. Here is a guide to this essential psychological move. If you like our films, take a look at our shop (we ship worldwide): https://goo.gl/GTunD2 Join our mailing list: http://bit.ly/2e0TQNJ Or visit us in person at our London HQ https://goo.gl/qMLe4B FURTHER READING “It is a quirk of our minds that not every emotion we carry is fully acknowledged, understood or even truly felt. There are feelings that exist in an ‘unprocessed’ form within us. A great many worries may, for example, remain disavowed and uninterpreted and manifest themselves as powerful directionless anxiety. Under their sway, we may feel a compulsive need to remain busy, fear spending any time on our own or cling to activities that ensure we don’t meet what scares us head on (these might include internet pornography, tracking the news or exercising compulsively). A similar kind of disavowal can go on around hurt. Someone may have abused our trust, made us doubt their kindness or violated our self-esteem but we are driven to flee a frank recognition of an appalling degree of exposure and vulnerability. The hurt is somewhere inside, but on the surface, we adopt a brittle good cheer (jolliness being sadness that doesn’t know itself), we numb ourselves chemically or else adopt a carefully non-specific tone of cynicism, which masks the specific wound that has been inflicted on us…” You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: https://goo.gl/FxY6e6 MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Our website has classes, articles and products to help you think and grow: https://goo.gl/jWiJE7 Watch more films on SELF in our playlist: http://bit.ly/TSOLself You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: https://www.youtube.com/timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 Find out how more here: https://support.google.com/youtube/answer/6054623?hl=en-GB SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Vale Productions http://www.valeproductions.co.uk/ #TheSchoolOfLife

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In order to be calm and at ease with ourselves, we need regular periods where we do something rather strange-sounding: process our emotions. Here is a guide to this essential psychological  move.
 If you like our films, take a look at our shop (we ship worldwide): https://goo.gl/GTunD2
Join our mailing list: http://bit.ly/2e0TQNJ 
Or visit us in person at our London HQ https://goo.gl/qMLe4B


FURTHER READING

“It is a quirk of our minds that not every emotion we carry is fully acknowledged, understood or even truly felt.
There are feelings that exist in an ‘unprocessed’ form within us. A great many worries may, for example, remain disavowed and uninterpreted and manifest themselves as powerful directionless anxiety. Under their sway, we may feel a compulsive need to remain busy, fear spending any time on our own or cling to activities that ensure we don’t meet what scares us head on (these might include internet pornography, tracking the news or exercising compulsively). A similar kind of disavowal can go on around hurt. Someone may have abused our trust, made us doubt their kindness or violated our self-esteem but we are driven to flee a frank recognition of an appalling degree of exposure and vulnerability. The hurt is somewhere inside, but on the surface, we adopt a brittle good cheer (jolliness being sadness that doesn’t know itself), we numb ourselves chemically or else adopt a carefully non-specific tone of cynicism, which masks the specific wound that has been inflicted on us…”

You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here:  https://goo.gl/FxY6e6

MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE

Our website has classes, articles and products to help you think and grow: https://goo.gl/jWiJE7

Watch more films on SELF in our playlist: 
http://bit.ly/TSOLself

You can submit translations and transcripts on all of our videos here: https://www.youtube.com/timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog&tab=2 
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