Theoretically, anyone who intentionally practices an immoral act is culpable regardless of the consequences. But in most cases, people sign up for what is called “moral luck”.

This isn’t just false modesty or fishing for reassurance; some people do believe that they cause every bad thing all or most of the time.

• Blame is a good defense mechanism and protects your self-esteem by avoiding awareness of your own failings.
• Blame is a tool of attack that can hurt others and a destructive conflict resolution method.
• We’re bad at analyzing people's behavior, or even our own. The attributions...

The more often you play the blame game, the more you lose. Learning to tell when you need to own up to your role in a bad situation will help you grow from your experiences, and ultimately help you achieve more fulfilling relationships.