Before we commence with the festivities, I wanted to thank everyone for helping my first book become a Wall Street Journal bestseller. To check it out, click here. *** We'd all like to learn how to read people like Sherlock Holmes. And research shows understanding things like body language is even more powerful than you might think.
Dale Carnegie's How to Win Friends and Influence People is the classic on getting along well with others. But is there any real science behind it, or is it just advice that "sounds good"? In the past I've broken down old sayings and career advice, let's see if Carnegie holds up to scrutiny.
When people speak, the best responses are both active and constructive: engaged, enthusiastic, curious and has supportive nonverbal action. Ask questions. Be excited. Ask for details. Smile. Touch. Laugh.
It's a powerful technique - it makes you more liked and people more receptive to your requests.
We're all students of body language. Too bad we're not students of our own body language. Here are some tips to help ensure your body language works for, and not against, you: 1. Prep with a power pose.
Frowning, grimacing, glowering, and other negative facial expressions send a signal to your brain that whatever you're doing is difficult. That causes your brain to send cortisol into your bloodstream, which raises your stress levels. Instead, force yourself to smile. It works.