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If You Want Uncommon Clarity, Ask Yourself Uncommonly Specific Questions

Living a Fulfilling Life

It takes about the same amount of energy to sustain a mediocre life as it does to build a fulfilling life. Mediocre choices will get you mediocre results. Making world-class choices can produce world-class success.

Stop making excuses for your limiting behavior and get more specific:

  • Find out exactly what you want.
  • Find out who you are.
  • Find out where you're going.

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If You Want Uncommon Clarity, Ask Yourself Uncommonly Specific Questions

If You Want Uncommon Clarity, Ask Yourself Uncommonly Specific Questions

https://thoughtcatalog.com/anthony-moore/2019/12/if-you-want-uncommon-clarity-ask-yourself-uncommonly-specific-questions/

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Tim Ferriss

Tim Ferriss

“Life punishes the vague and rewards the specific ask.”

The Path We Know

Many people follow a path to a dead-end job with mediocre relationships and low income because that is all they know. They never ask themselves specific, focused questions.

It's not that they are not capable or competent; they are only without direction. They follow the clearest path, even if they don't like where the path is leading.

The Clearest Path

Make sure the path you follow is taking you in the right direction.

Ask yourself specific and uncommonly questions. Ask about your work, your relationships, where your life is heading.

More Clarity

Being successful requires you to say no to the wrong things - the wrong money, wrong relationships, and wrong life choices. The wrong choices will make you unhappy and unfulfilled.

Wrong money is abundant. It is the money earned doing tasks that are irrelevant to your Big Goals. It is the money that leads you to mediocrity.

Living a Fulfilling Life

It takes about the same amount of energy to sustain a mediocre life as it does to build a fulfilling life. Mediocre choices will get you mediocre results. Making world-class choices can produce world-class success.

Stop making excuses for your limiting behavior and get more specific:

  • Find out exactly what you want.
  • Find out who you are.
  • Find out where you're going.

“Why?”

When you feel overwhelmed or unfocused, ask yourself "why" 5 times to get to the bottom of why you're feeling what you're feeling. After the 5th "why", you can generally pinpoint what is going on.

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Incomplete Data is Misleading

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As all data is inherently incomplete, we use our minds to fill the missing information, based on the existing data we have, and that can go obverse.

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