A relationship is always in the doldrums as it is swinging to one of the two extremes: no care, or too much care.

Contentment comes from balance. 

The Paradox we face is that if we are seeking too much change in life, we feel out of control, and if we pursue too much stability, our lives become dull and boring.

There is an inherent tension in freedom. We are free to do whatever we choose to do, and can create a meaningful life. But the infinite options in front of us may lead to a lack of commitment and the variety of choices may lead to greater anxiety.

The Paradox of Freedom can be resolved by merging the extremes and committing to action that multiplies our choice.

We are not anxious when bad things happen, but during the phase when we are unsure of what will happen. The Unpredictability, and the moment of darkness, when things can go in any direction is when we feel our lack of control.

Life is full of paradoxes, and anything and everything that we hope for or desire only leads to more anxiety and stress, creating new problems for us.

Our behavior, contentment, desires, expectations, and body clocks are set differently, and this may lead to conflicts and problems with others.