The cliche goes that therapists nod their heads wisely and say: “And how did that make you feel?” They do say this sometimes; and in fact, when no one has ever asked you this question before, it’s extremely powerful when they do, repeatedly. This repetition starts to have an effect: it makes you see that your feelings are valid; they aren’t right or wrong – they just are.

Asking The Right Questions

We survive (in the broadest sense) our childhoods by figuring out how to fit into our families, our roles, our small world; we learn about relationships from our parents. We then carry these ways of being into our adult lives where, in many cases, they are no longer useful, or relevant.

The Past Holds Clues

<ul><li>The release of talking, of being listened to, is an emotional experience.</li><li>Many sessions, particularly in these early days, can be emotionally battering, tearful, and can leave anyone feeling wrung out for days.</li></ul>

Tears Are Useful

<ul><li>In 2012, therapy carried something of a stigma.</li><li>The open conversations we have today around mental health weren't happening.</li><li>Now, Covid has sharpened everyone's awareness of their own mental health struggles.</li><li>Therapy can be like finding a key for a door that had been locked your whole life. </li><li>Ten million people will need support for their mental health as a direct result of the pandemic, according to the Centre for Mental Health.</li><li>Here are the nine things learned from therapy, that we can benefit from.</li></ul>

The Value Of Therapy In 2022

<ul><li>A therapist is part detective, part archaeologist, scratching at the surface, finding something of potential interest and digging a little deeper.</li><li>These quieter, less emotional sessions are where the deep excavation takes place.</li><li>They work as a team, trying to piece things together, make connections.</li><li>In the real world, life starts to get a little easier.</li></ul>

Proper Change Takes Time

Once this truth is established, it leads to more interesting conversations. Understanding that you not flawed – or, more accurately, that we all are, so get over it – and that you must dictate what shape your life takes gives you the freedom to think about the choices you could make in future.With this newfound insight that your parents are not responsible for your state, only you are, comes a sense of freedom.

Don't Blame Your Parents

<ul><li>Therapy is a powerful means to an end, and it can arm us to have the skills to become a self-therapist.</li><li>The end of therapy does not means that the problems have ended. It means that now you have the skills to handle them yourself.</li></ul>

You Have to Know when To Stop

<ul><li>What's happening for you right now?</li><li>This is a question we don't often ask ourselves, checking in with the present moment. </li><li>It helps us stay in the now, and gradually moves us into full awareness.</li></ul>

Random Self Check-ins

This phrase is bandied around so freely in self-help articles and on fridge magnets, it has almost lost its meaning.Your sense of freedom and responsibility comes from self-acceptance, and responsibility can also mean being positively responsive.

Self-Acceptance Is Real

Silences are often when the juiciest things come out. It takes courage to sit with it.If you fill your silence to avoid awkwardness, you’re actually avoiding something else - an intimacy, a genuine thought, an ability to feel a little exposed.

Don’t Be Afraid of Silence

Therapy does not solve your problems, it makes you strong and self-sufficient to handle problems.

Therapy was like finding a key for a door that had been locked my whole life. Here are the nine things it’s taught me

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