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10 Lessons For A Good Life - Darius Foroux

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Be the one who doesn't hide, doesn't fear all the things that life has to offer: bad people, bad weather, pressure, or pain.

Taste life to the fullest.

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10 Lessons For A Good Life - Darius Foroux

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Focus

The right frame of mind, and thinking about positive things to happen goes a long way to improving your life. Focus on what you want.

Act on it

You can't just think good thoughts and assume your life will be better. 

We can't just think something. We need to act on it. 

Showing initiative

Be an originator of the action, of new ideas and be the first to start something new.

Set an example. No matter what it is, be the first one who does something.

The uncommon path

Instead of taking the common path, make your own path. Don't be a follower. When you originate something, be unique in your actions. 

Showing up

Be the one who doesn't hide, doesn't fear all the things that life has to offer: bad people, bad weather, pressure, or pain.

Taste life to the fullest.

Quitting

Quit the things that are not working out for you. It is no use hanging on to something which is not of use.

Fail fast and come out stronger with a better solution to succeed.

Staying in shape

Instead of periodically being fit when the situation demands, go for Gold, and always stay in shape, agile and strong, ready to take on anything.

Taking rest

Don't be ashamed to rest. You need to recover your energy, and for that, you need to schedule rest as an important activity.

Pessimists

You will find pessimists everywhere, even in well-meaning family and friends. They don't know any better. Ignore them selectively. A pessimist is not necessarily a bad person.

Keep Reminding Yourself

We're forgetful beings. So you need to keep reminding yourself what you already have in life, what you want and what your life goal is, and to stay on track.

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Stop Wasting Time On Losers

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