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How you attach to people may explain a lot about your inner life

The Way Therapy Works

There is growing research on how therapy actually works. Psychological communication, dialogue, and intervention can work even better than pills.
This seems even more intriguing when we see that there are contradictory methods deployed to cure the same kind of problem.

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How you attach to people may explain a lot about your inner life

How you attach to people may explain a lot about your inner life

https://www.theguardian.com/science/2020/jan/10/psychotherapy-childhood-mental-health

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Therapy Techniques

  • Some therapists are just there to listen and provide a backdrop.
  • Even the silence that they exhibit seems to kindle the patients into divulging more of their most uncomfortable truths.
  • Others keep the sequence of assignments and tests lined up, never pausing.
  • Therapists play varied roles to get some valuable information out of the patient and make him better.

Therapy That Works

No particular form of therapy is proven to be better or more effective than others.

Different people prefer or respond to different forms of therapy.

The Client-Therapist Bonding

All therapies share a bond, an emotional connection, or a collaboration between the therapist and the client(patient).

Research suggests that effective therapies use empathy, warmth, positivism, hopefulness and emotional expressiveness, whereas the ineffective ones tend to have a strict approach.

Attachment Matters

If the client and the therapist share a deeper, more primal relationship, which has the same developmental characteristics as that of a mother and her child, it leads to an effective result.

Comfort and Care Cures

Humans have an inborn, universal need for comfort, security, care and for being attached to someone. During our childhood, we are comforted and protected by the older and wiser adults, which shape our minds.

Early interactions with caregivers can dramatically affect your beliefs about yourself, your expectations of others, and the way you process information, cope with stress and regulate your emotions as an adult.

A New Relationship

Problems such as anxiety, depression, loneliness, eating disorders, and alcohol/substance abuse can be treated with the patient having a new relationship.

A good therapist can temporarily become a figure of attachment, treating the patient in a way a nurturing mother would.

A Healthy Intimacy

Therapists, by having regular meetings with their clients, develop a healthy intimacy, in which there is trust along with a deep understanding that increases as the sessions progress.

Eventually, the client is able to fully connect with the therapist and is also able to mirror himself.

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