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Problems such as anxiety, depression, loneliness, eating disorders, and alcohol/substance abuse can be treated with the patient having a new relationship.
A good therapist can temporarily become a figure of attachment, treating the patient in a way a nurturing mother would.
Therapists, by having regular meetings with their clients, develop a healthy intimacy, in which there is trust along with a deep understanding that increases as the sessions progress.
Eventually, the client is able to fully connect with the therapist and is also able to mirror himself.
Humans have an inborn, universal need for comfort, security, care and for being attached to someone. During our childhood, we are comforted and protected by the older and wiser adults, which shape our minds.
Early interactions with caregivers can dramatically affect your beliefs about yourself, your expectations of others, and the way you process information, cope with stress and regulate your emotions as an adult.
If the client and the therapist share a deeper, more primal relationship, which has the same developmental characteristics as that of a mother and her child, it leads to an effective result.
All therapies share a bond, an emotional connection, or a collaboration between the therapist and the client(patient).
Research suggests that effective therapies use empathy, warmth, positivism, hopefulness and emotional expressiveness, whereas the ineffective ones tend to have a strict approach.
No particular form of therapy is proven to be better or more effective than others.
Different people prefer or respond to different forms of therapy.
Do you ever find yourself wanting to spend more and more time together, while the other seems to be pulling away?
Similar problems to the one outlined above are often caused by differences in where each person lies on two scales:
1) Avoidance - of intimacy, relationships, and emotional connection
2) Anxiety - relating to the security and stability of a relationship
The evidence shows that the primary determinants of effectiveness in psychotherapy are the human and relational elements.
In other words, a good, effective psychotherapist is not a "junior physician" wielding medical-like techniques. Instead, an effective therapist is a warm, caring, empathic, and knowledgeable person who knows how to interact with a client in a way that is healing
Whatever your specific relationship problems, it’s important to know that your brain remains capable of change throughout life.
By identifying your attachment style, you can learn to challenge your insecurities, develop a more securely attached way of relating to others, and build stronger, healthier, and more fulfilling relationships.
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