2. If he hit you once, don't let it happen again. I mean if he's violent against you for the first time don't accept the "I'm sorry, it won't happen again"...Okay maybe you can accept the apology. But don't dare continue the relationship. Cuz abuse men don't change, they never really learn their lessons and most of them don't regret thier actions. So continuing the relationship is like giving him a chance to do it again...and again... and again...till violence against you becomes the most consistent aspect of your relationship.