2. Surprise them. - Deepstash
2. Surprise them.

2. Surprise them.

A deceptive person will try to anticipate your questions, so that their answers sound instinctive and natural. They may even practice answering specific questions ahead of time.

Ask them something they don't expect, and they'll stumble.

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