When you possess confidence, you trust you’re prepared to face uncomfortable, difficult situations. You know you’re adaptable and capable of pivoting when necessary. Check in with yourself, reflecting honestly on whether you’re over- or under-confident, and align your confidence levels with the reality of your abilities. Build appropriate confidence by abandoning any need you might have to feel you’re in total control of your circumstances. Be open to emotional pain, so you’re not paralyzed by fear

Build Your Confidence

Those who achieve enduring success possess mental toughness. Mental toughness is a mindset which enables you to avoid catastrophic thinking and embrace positivity when facing challenges. It teaches you to use setbacks to your advantage. If you struggle to reach your goals and maintain your desired level of success or perhaps feel discouraged, depressed or angry, know that you have the power to improve your circumstances and shift your mindset. Many people don’t cultivate mental toughness, however, because it requires patience and work.

Mental Toughness Is Required For Success

Take inventory of your growth and skills development. Cultivate a positive outlook, and forgo the need to seek external validation. List everything that contributes to your feelings of insecurity and jot down ideas about how you can lessen their negative effects. This might entail replacing recurring negative self-talk with a positive affirmation. Your inner critic is a shrewd adversary. It knows that it doesn’t have to yell to get your attention. It doesn’t have to scream to pummel your psyche, wear down your self-confidence, and encourage you to adopt a negative attitude

Your Inner Critic

Mentally tough people resist the temptation to indulge in something they desire in the present, and, instead, focus on attaining something they want more in the future. Practicing self-restraint builds your tolerance for discomfort and improves your cognitive resilience. Checking your urge for instant gratification bolsters your ability to tune out distractions.

Strong Impulse Control

Our habits signify what is important to us. They reflect our values and priorities.

<ul><li>Success requires mental toughness – but many people don’t bother cultivating it.</li><li>Overcome threats to mental toughness by increasing your awareness of them.</li><li>Control your emotions and thoughts – even when facing adversity.</li><li>Cultivate stronger impulse control and build better habits.</li><li>Build your confidence and overcome your inner critic.</li><li>Welcome boredom and conquer the desire to quit when working toward goals.</li><li>Take purposeful action by building willpower, motivation and self-discipline.</li><li>Navigate challenges and build mental toughness using Navy SEALs tactics.</li></ul>

Key Takeaways: Mental Toughness

No matter where you are in your life, no matter what struggles you’re currently experiencing, you can improve your circumstances.Being mentally tough has these benefits:<ul><li>Improved emotional and stress-management skills.</li><li>A clarified sense of purpose.</li><li>Higher confidence and performance levels.</li><li>The capacity to overcome your fears.</li><li>A healthier attitude toward failure and the ability to learn from mistakes.</li><li>Greater impulse control.</li><li>The ability to stop fixating on regrets and painful experiences while fostering a growth mindset.</li></ul>

The Benefits Of Being Mentally Tough

No one is born mentally strong. It’s something each of us develops. That’s terrific news because it means that you control it.Threats to mental toughness include self-pity, self-doubt, negative self-talk, fear, laziness, perfectionism, self-limiting beliefs and the inability to control emotions.﻿Resist the temptation to repress your feelings; learn to identify them instead.

Threats To Mental Toughness

Emotional intelligence is the ability to comprehend and manage your emotions, so you can perform at your best.The first step of mastering your emotions is increasing your self-awareness, so you’re better able to identify your feelings. Once you identify an emotion, evaluate it. Ask if your emotional reactions and any accompanying negative views of yourself are reasonable, or are holding you back. Reflect on whether you can influence the circumstances triggering your emotions. Take action if you see ways to improve your situation. Don't fume over situations you can’t control.

Control Your Emotions and Thoughts – Even During Adversity

To cultivate mental toughness, write down five of your most recent failures and how you responded to each one. Next, write down more positive ways you could have dealt with each failure. Overcoming your fear of failure doesn’t mean mustering false bravado or ignoring your weaknesses. Instead, take purposeful action toward your desired outcome after recognizing the reality of your situation and considering your options. Assess how you face the unexpected by writing down your typical responses. For example, perhaps you avoid making tough decisions.

Cultivating Mental Toughness

Rethink the past – Don’t let past events define you. Instead, view them as valuable training to help you overcome future adversity.Investigate negative emotions immediately – To avoid letting negative emotions overwhelm you, evaluate them as soon as they surface.Build self-confidence – You can’t overcome your fear of the unknown and persevere when facing obstacles without trusting yourself and your abilities.Practice daily gratitude – Rather than complain about challenges, remind yourself of things you’re thankful for.Develop change tolerance – Leave your comfort zone and seek out the unknown.

Improving Mental Strength

Don’t ignore it – Examine the negative claims your inner critic makes about you, recognizing them as emotionally and mentally destructive.Check its facts – Ask if there’s any evidence supporting the negative stories you tell yourself.  Respond rationally to overgeneralization – When you catch yourself using words like “always,” and “everyone,” replace them with reasonable statements.Avoid negative people – Don’t let cynical, demoralized or pessimistic people monopolize your time.Talk to yourself like you would to a friend – Give yourself the advice you’d give a good friend without any insults.

Overcome Negative Self-Talk

Contrary to popular belief, boredom can be a gift; it provides you with an opportunity to self-reflect. You’re unlikely to increase your mental toughness if you avoid boredom. You don’t master a skill without experiencing boredom, as mastery requires repetitive practice work. Without mastery, you’ll feel a lack of control and confidence. To stop feeling discomfort when bored, identify and accept that you’re bored, reminding yourself of the broader goals your boredom serves.

Welcoming Boredom: Conquer The Desire To Quit

Meditation can help you connect to the present moment and prevent you from chasing distractions. Rethink boredom’s role in your life by listing the emotions you tend to associate with feeling bored. Identify what triggers those emotions, and reframe your boredom triggers more positively. Observe why people quit: They get distracted; don’t overcome their impulses and bad habits; don’t take their commitments seriously; don’t clarify the rewards they’re working toward; and/or are overly optimistic and fail to anticipate potential setbacks.

The Boredom Trigger And How To Not Quit

Willpower means controlling your impulses and resisting temptations and distractions when trying to accomplish something. Motivation refers to the impulse to take action toward change. If you can’t muster motivation and willpower, your habits can give you the structure to take action toward your goals. Turning purposeful action into a habitual behavior makes engaging in goal-driven activities more automatic. One practical method for building self-control is to take five minutes to meditate whenever you feel tempted to indulge in an activity that’s not goal-directed.

Building Willpower, Motivation and Self-Discipline

Eliminate temptations – Remove environmental temptations to avoid triggering impulse-driven behaviours.You won’t become self-disciplined overnight – Recognize that you’re in control of your mind by taking small steps toward increased self-discipline, daily.Make a strategy – Create a feasible action plan to enable your consistent progress by scheduling goal-driven activities.Get comfortable with discomfort – Tolerate feelings such as malaise rather than indulging your impulses.Focus on tasks – When engaged in a task, give it your full attention.

Five Secrets of Self-Discipline Help You Cultivate Self-Control

They embrace positive self-talk – Navy SEALs can’t afford to panic.They keep training after mastering skills – Navy SEALs understand that training is continuous.They focus on micro-goals – Breaking dauntingly large goals into smaller ones – helps Navy SEALs stay present and endure difficulties.They visualize – Psychologists believe your brain doesn’t differentiate between lived and imagined experiences, so visualizing yourself successfully tackling difficult tasks prepares you to do so in real life.They anticipate problems – They prepare for every possible adversity and make plans.

What Navy Seals Do

Change your expectations, so you don’t associate low-effort activities with high rewards. Identify compulsive desires and find reward-stimulating alternatives that are more productive. Give yourself small rewards, such as reading for pleasure, when you resist temptations. Define your guiding values and compelling reasons to pursue your goals, while reminding yourself of their importance. Reset

Reset Your Expectations

Mentally tough people focus their energy on what they can influence, as opposed to wasting time fixating on the things they can’t change. They’re flexible and adaptable when facing unexpected outcomes. These individuals are self-aware and can identify their emotions and understand what triggers their negative feelings. They accept uncertainty and don’t wallow in disappointments. Tough-minded people have high emotional intelligence and they can regulate their emotions. They are positive, yet pragmatic. Nobody possesses all of these traits innately – everyone must work to develop them.

Mental Toughness: Spotting The Tough Guy

Facing Life’s Challenges, Managing Negative Emotions, and Overcoming Adversity with Courage and Poise. The head-exploding moment: The mind does not differentiate between real and imagined experiences.

Life can be exhausting. A never-ending string of challenges and hardships my tempt you to throw in the towel. This book shows you how to perform under pressure, control your impluses, and bravely endure emotional and psychological distress. This action guide is chock full of actionable strategies to tough your mind against adversity. Includes 18 exercises designed to help you to apply the advice immediately.

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Damon Zahariades says the secret of enduring success is mental toughness: a mind-set that helps you navigate the unexpected challenges life presents. Zahariades endeavors to teach readers, including CEOs as well as professional athletes, the ongoing process of cognitively restructuring your mind by questioning your thoughts, attitudes and emotions. Transform your life, he urges, and inspire others in the process.

Productivity expert Damon Zahariades is owner of ArtOfProductivity.com, a site devoted to showing you how to hack your day to get more things done. He wasn't always productive. Damon spent many years in Corporate America, dragging himself to ridiculous meetings and enduring the impromptu "drive-by" visits of his coworkers, before striking out on his own. Today, he owns his own content marketing agency and creates action guides that show others how to boost their productivity.