8 min read Opinions expressed by Entrepreneur contributors are their own. Years ago, my boss, who's the vice president of human resources at our company, asked me to write my goals for the year. Having never had any training in, and no real reason for, writing professional goals, I went back to my boss for guidance.
When we battle with unsolvable problems, we start to question our abilities. This creates feelings of helplessness that undermine our ability to succeed.
While it is natural to feel demoralized and pessimistic, you have to address your negative feelings so they don't interfere in your efforts to find work. To overcome your negative emotions, you have to regain a sense of control.
When you've lost your job and want to find a new one, start with the skills that you know you have.For instance, a restaurant host will have people skills, communication skills, the ability to multi-task, and problem solve.
Recording all your skill sets will remind you what you have to offer an employer. It will help you identify potential roles to which you might be suited.
Twenty-three years ago, one of my employees - I'll call him Dale - asked for a private meeting. Dale was serious and bookish and had very strong opinions. His work was fastidious. He rarely socialized with colleagues, but he was impeccable in his commitments to others. And he was skilled at his job.
Accept responsibility for its existence. Because an external event always precedes your experience of an emotion, it’s easy to assume that the event caused it. But as long as you believe it was externally caused, you are going to be a victim to your emotions.