Zoom Out

If we really sit down and think about it for five minutes, they’re going to realize the biggest, unwanted drain on their time, energy, and money, It could be a relationship in our life — it could be a parent, it could be a friend, someone we are dating — and that the boundary that we need to set ...

Just because you excel at something — be it creating detailed spreadsheets or making complicated desserts for dinner parties — doesn’t mean you have to agree to it every time you’re asked or volunteer to do it to impress others.

Being subtly pressured to do something you are good at is a co...

Caring less doesn’t mean negligence. To care less about inconsequential matters, you need to zero in on what is worth caring for. Consider taking stock of to-do list items and obligations and asking if these responsibilities make your day feel more spacious or more confined. Does it nourish your ...

To say that our plates are full would be an understatement. The reality of contemporary living requires our attention and efforts to be divided between demanding jobs, essential familial caregiving, replenishing social gatherings, and fulfilling political and community engagements — not to mentio...

The myth of perfectionism keeps many in a cycle of feeding into external pressures: the illusion of “having it all,” gleaning self-worth from the validation of others. Of course, it is worthy and noble to be passionate about people and causes you care about. It’s also easy to fall into the trap o...

Much of our desire to take on extra tasks and responsibilities comes from a sense of obligation to others, experts agree, but even that can be self-directed. Seventy-five percent of the time, the guilt is coming from inside the house. You are making it up in your own head.

Before making a d...

Many people’s values and self-worth are intrinsically tied to their jobs. But if you zoom out and consider who you are outside of your job, you may realize other areas of life where you might be lacking, like spending quality time with family or practising art or music — parts of life you decided...