38 Book Highlights

• Monthly: Travel, even if it's to a different nearby city. See something I've never seen before. Taste something different. Meet new people. Do it with an open mind and curiosity, as if you're an alien visiting earth.
• Yearly: Do something that scares me. Maybe an activity like swimmin...

23.    The difference between feeling good and feeling alive is fear. We are not afraid of things that make us feel good. A safe job, a comfortable relationship, twenty minutes on a treadmill. These things don't require much effort. We are not scared of them. But if you want to feel alive, there ...

When you're kissing someone, let it be more than just a gateway to sex. Notice the softness of her lips, the shape, the energy, the dance. Kiss like it's your last time. Pick one activity to hang mindfulness on. Then build on it until mindfulness comes naturally as a way of life. The world will b...

26.    Boys have something to prove because they need approval. Men let their work speak for itself.

27.    It's about getting comfortable with the uncomfortable.

28.    When we respond, we don't just deflect our pain or frustration. We understand it, which gives it less power. W reac...

11.    As men we have a responsibility for our own happiness. Whining and complaining only make a bad or difficult situation worse.

12.    We must realize that our differences aren't what's lacking in us but rather are what makes us valuable.

13.    Life is not about waiting. It's abo...

“Every man must ask himself two questions: First, Where am I going? And second, Who’s coming with me? If he reverses the order, he will be going alone.”

-John Kim, I Used to Be a Miserable F*ck: An Everyman’s Guide to a Meaningful Life: An Everyman’s Guide to a Meaningful Life

Kim advises that cultivating self-awareness (which takes hard work) coupled with three steps (accept what is, lean into it, and have the courage to change) will help readers through tough times. With chapters explaining such topics as the difference between (for boys) being nice and (for mature a...

9.    Focus less on outcomes. Instead, focus on the process. When we put all our chips on what we need to achieve, our ego is on the line. Because we tie our worth (ego) to our ability. We believe that if we don't accomplish -- close the deal, land the raise, get the girl, win the race -- we are ...

29.    Men who can't admit when they are wrong are basically refusing to grow. In every relationship, if you're not growing together, you are growing apart. So if you won't admit it when you're wrong, it's just a matter of time before your partner feels as if she's outgrown you. Plain and simple....

14.    Seek joy, always, in everything you do. It doesn't matter if you're doing the dishes, going on a date, or building an empire; this mindset will allow you to be open and aware, to unlock yourself so that you can unleash your gifts. The world needs you. You were meant to change it.

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5.    You are a conduit, and something greater than you is working through you to project your unique gifts into the world.

6.    When I play back my life, my douchery was the most prevalent when I felt the most insecure. Being a douche is like turning on a black light that exposes your ins...

16.    The best way to practice mindfulness is to hang it on an activity. When you're eating, don't inhale your food. Instead, chew slowly. Take in the taste, texture, color, smell -- use all your senses. Eat like it's your last meal. When you're working out, don't just focus on reps and weight. ...

1.    Worth is not something you believe. It's something you build.

2.    It's not about how many times we fight. It's about how we fight. Fight fair. Understand before trying to be understood. And don't walk away.

3.    Treat people in service -- valets, servers, bartenders, hosts --...

17.    Here are some things I do daily, weekly, monthly, and yearly to help myself appreciate the moment and get more mindful:

• Daily: Get up early. Notice the morning. Walk to a coffee shop, not drive, taking in the sky and trees. Journal. Write for me (not for work). Create a space fo...

10.    If you allow your purpose, the greater good, to be your true north, you will be less concerned about your problems and fears and more concerned about the kind of dent you can make. Always hang your purpose above your passion and your ego will fall in line, be checked. Your purpose not just...

31.    Your house is your safe tree, your temple, and a direct reflection of what's happening inside. Keep it clean. Set the tone.

32.    What you do doesn't determine your true value. Your value lives in your character and capacity. Your heart and your story.

33.    "If you can't fin...

18.    Any opportunity you get to travel, just fucking take it. Life doesn't give us an invitation to go anywhere. We have to make it happen.

19.    A well-traveled man is a wise man.

20.    A man's diet is a direct reflection of his self-control, discipline, and how much he loves him...