The modern world is quickly dividing us into two groups: those who control their own attention well and those whose attention is controlled by someone else, especially technology.

To put it bluntly, you can’t expect to be productive if you don’t control your own attention.

While there is some overlap, the differences have clear implications for how people spend their time. 

• Those who pursue happiness are what psychologists call “takers.” 
• In contrast, people leading meaningful lives get a lot of joy from giving to others.

People love to talk about themselves and their interests. Be an active listener, pay attention, and ask follow-up questions to demonstrate your genuine interest.

• Be patient and let others express themselves