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How to Let Go of Your Regrets | Mark Manson
Learn from your narratives
Our narratives are chronically short-term, emotional, and self-centered.
However, regretful mistakes can have some subtle, non-emotional, long-term benefits. They can root out all superficial values and help you replace them with healthier, non-material values. In hindsight, your most painful mistakes can be the best thing that ever happened to you.
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