Politeness

The light triad of human nature consists of three distinct factors:

• Kantianism (treating people for who they are, not as means)
• Humanism ( valuing the dignity and worth of each person)
• Faith in humanity (believing in the fundamental goodness of humans)

The light triad is not simply the opposite of the dark triad. There is a little bit of light and dark in each of us.

A study revealed that the average person is leaning more toward the light triad than the dark in their everyday patterns of thoughts, behaviors, and emotions. Extreme malevolence is rare in the general population.

If you are planning your first date with somebody, make sure to pay a special attention to the topics you want to engage in throughout the date. Keep the conversation smart and the exchange of experiences alive.

When going on a first date, make sure your mindset is a positive one, no matter what your previous dating experiences felt like. Embrace the fear of a possible failure while hoping for a pleasant outcome.

Thinking of personality as fixed could leave us feeling like we can never grow or dismiss people with certain qualities, believing that change isn't possible. However, we don't simply change our personalities in random ways. The relationship among all of our personality traits seems to be more consistent.

If someone was really conscientious but slightly disagreeable, they might keep that personality profile as they age, even if their other traits changed a bit.

Personality seems to change cumulative over our lifespan and likely happens in response to our life experiences. Therefore our personalities are a mix of stable and unstable.

• Parents and teachers should keep that in mind when they try to influence a child's personality.
• Even the elderly, whom we might expect to be more set in their ways, can change.
• Partners would be better served by learning to value what remains constant in someone's personality while embracing personality shifts as they happen.

It describes people who enjoy the arts and new experiences. Possible facets:

• Fantasy: they have a vivid imagination
• Aesthetics: they believe in the importance of art
• Feelings: They experience emotions intensely
• Actions: They prefer variety to routine
• Ideas: they like complex problems
• Values: they tend to vote for liberals.

People that score high on this are organized, methodical and tend to keep going and going. Possible facets:

• Competence: they complete tasks successfully
• Order: they like order
• Dutifulness: the follow the rules
• Achievement-striving: they work hard
• Self-discipline: they get chores done right away
• Deliberation: they avoid mistakes.

Most of the intentions behind our actions are hidden. If a person is feeling depressed or angry, usually the resulting behaviors distort their true feelings.

By focusing on empathy you can usually break away these subversions and get to the heart of the issue faster.

Most of the time you feel something, nobody else knows about it. So don’t get angry when people aren’t responding to you.

If you deceive your thoughts with your actions, don’t get angry when you fool people.

Unconditional generosity is giving without anticipation of any kind of reciprocation, repayment, or even a thank you.

Examples of generosity include a simple smile for a stranger or sharing your time with the elderly.  Think about what else you can give in terms of time, talent and resources that you are blessed with.

Generosity spreads and transfers and has a 'pay it forward effect' many times over.

The generosity cycle has it's own momentum and spreads over a period of time as each person is impacted.