When we expect the worst, we might be trying to protect ourselves from disappointment.
Disappointments are inevitable. We might as well have positive expectations that are occasionally proven wrong than negative expectations that are sometimes proven right.
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While we may have many good reasons to be pessimistic, we don't have to resign ourselves to it forever.
Optimism can be learned. Research reveals that optimists earn more money, have better relationships and live longer.
Studies show that imagining your ideal future can increase your levels of optimism. Focusing on your dreams coming true turn your focus away from worrying about the worst possible outcome.
Imagine your ideal life in 10 years - what it would look like and how you would feel. Spend time considering family, career, romance or health. Now write it down once a week for the next two months.
When you recognize negative thoughts, argue with yourself as if it were an external person who is trying to make you miserable.
Present evidence to prove them wrong.
Intentionally present extremely positive predictions to counteract your extremely negative predictions. It will help you to find a middle road and put things in perspective.
By practicing this strategy, you can make changes that stick.
Meditation - mindfulness, focusing on the moment - is an excellent anti-anxiety, anti-anger tool..But accepting suffering and finding contentment in that means you can't move into doing something good in the future.
One important idea is hope. Positive human future doesn't come about by accident - it needs hopeful people who plan for it and make it happen.
We all have either an internal or an external locus of control. This cognitive mechanism provides us with confidence that we can change the elements of our lives.
Having the locus of control on the outside makes it subject to every twist and turn of our lives, making us feel helpless.
Double Down On Relationships. Those who increase their social activity when things get hard handles stress the best.