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Why an Internal Focus is The Solution to All of Your Problems
“The moment you take personal responsibility for everything in your life is the moment you can change anything in your life.”
Hal Elrod
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Defining excuses
Excuses are rationalizations we make to ourselves about people, events, and circumstances.
They are invented reasons we create to defend our behavior, to postpone taking action or simpl...
The Fear Trap
We make excuses for the following key reasons:
- Fear of Failure
- Fear of Embarrassment
- Fear of Success
- Fear of Change
- Fear of Uncertainty
- Fear of Responsibility
- Fear of Making Mistakes
- Perceived lack of confidence or resources
'There’s just not enough time'
It suggests the wrong priorities or time management problems. It could also indicate laziness or procrastination.
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What Perspective Taking Is
It’s the ability to take on someone else’s point of view when thinking.
By taking yourself out of the equation, the motivations of your opponent becomes clearer. And by understanding the othe...
Develop perspective taking
- Put aside your feelings so that you can concentrate only on the other person’s perspective.
- Use open ended questions that can help you draw out the interests and motivation that the person may not be verbalizing.
- Be clear about your own position and the weaknesses it has.
- Remove any personal intentions you may have, so as not to project them on to the other person.
- Using what you know about the person, their background, their mood, their intentions and expectations, imagine how they are seeing the current situation.
- Validate their position by paraphrasing back to them what you think their position is.
Using perspective taking
When you break it down, almost every aspect of business involves an element of negotiation.
By honing your perspective taking skills, you are much more likely to come up with solutions that are acceptable to all parties.
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Attachment and control
With attachment comes a very strong urge to control the circumstances.
You put yourself at risk by investing so much of yourself into something, unwilling to believe that there i...
Passion and attachment
Feeling too much passion and attachment towards something can skew our perception of it.
And that's risky because it can make us unwilling to see the flaws in our plan.
