Specialness is something you earn. If you need somebody else to tell you that you are special, then you have not done anything to earn it. People aren’t qualified enough to decide whether someone is special or not.Specialness should be the feeling felt on upgrading in life after mastering a skill.

Specialness Is Earned

You never stop chasing those things that make you happy or give you immense joy. Once you get something pleasurable, you crave more.Happiness doesn’t last for eternity. Therefore, one should continually strive for self-satisfaction. The search for self-satisfaction gives us peace of mind and happiness as a product.

Stop Chasing Happiness

When you see perfect people online, you realize that you lack something they don’t, which causes self-doubt.The thing is, you don’t have any real-life data about them. You have no idea what they are like in real life.In real life, people aren’t perfect. People have so many flaws that even they aren’t aware of.

Perfection Only Exists Online

Getting depressed or motivated by rejection only means that you are desperate for another person’s approval, which you definitely shouldn’t be.Rejections have nothing to do with you. It is you who has to decide your self-worth. Nobody knows “you” more than you.

Rejections Are Normal

Everyone tries to market themselves as someone they are not. That's why relying on first impressions is a shitty way of making judgments.The best way is to look at their actions and wait until you gather enough real-life data.Making assumptions without the right data will never give you an accurate analysis of a person.

First Impressions Can Be Delusional

Admire people and learn from them. But don’t become someone’s blind follower.The element of honesty is what separates blind following from admiration.Honesty removes the fake image of perfection from your eyes. Instead, you see ordinary, accessible people with flaws and struggles, just like you. That’s why you admire them, for their reality.

Admire, Don’t Follow

Everything you’ve learned so far comes from someone telling you how to feel and what to think. If you want to become intelligent, you have to admit that you don’t know anything or that what you know is probably wrong.Avoid blindly following beliefs and learn to question. Wrong beliefs make you stupid; it’s the right ones that set you free.

Learn How to Think

These ideas are not intended to teach but to make you think.

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Swetabh Gangwar is a novelist, public speaker, professional problem-solver, and has over two million followers on YouTube. He dedicatedly solves people's problems sent to him on his Instagram (@mensutra) and makes videos on as many as he can. He defines it as the purpose of his life and what truly brings him meaning. 