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Why You Should Date Someone Who Isn't Your Type

Dating Outside Your Type

  • Instead of dating according to a laundry list of traits and preferences, a person can get out of their comfort and familiarity zones and date other types of people.
  • One can choose a different kind of individual, breaking the unconscious habits or roles developed as a child.
  • When we start to look at others holistically rather than through a series of must-have qualities, it broadens our perspective. Let people surprise you, and surprise yourself!

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Why You Should Date Someone Who Isn't Your Type

Why You Should Date Someone Who Isn't Your Type

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"Our Type" Of Partner

While choosing a partner, we subconsciously type-cast them. We have a particular preference for a  type of person that can provide us with a feeling of warmth and familiarity.

We are drawn towards, or attracted to certain individuals that make us comfortable and have similar values and traits.

Dating Outside Your Type

  • Instead of dating according to a laundry list of traits and preferences, a person can get out of their comfort and familiarity zones and date other types of people.
  • One can choose a different kind of individual, breaking the unconscious habits or roles developed as a child.
  • When we start to look at others holistically rather than through a series of must-have qualities, it broadens our perspective. Let people surprise you, and surprise yourself!

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