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Maxwell
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Don't take it personally
When dealing with difficult individuals, remember that their unpleasant actions are proof of their own lifestyle and unhappiness and in no way are these related to you.
Therefore, stand your ground in the most polite way possible and do not let their behavior have a negative impact on your life.
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