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How to Deal with Negative People
“Don’t take anything personally. Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.”
Miguel Ruiz
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Lao Tzu
“What is a good man but a bad man’s teacher? What is a bad man but a good man’s job? If you don’t understand this, you will get lost, however intelligent you are. It is the great secret.”
Take every experience as a lesson
Whenever you find yourself in an unpleasant or difficult situation, try to see what you can take away from this very experience.
Try to perceive your experiences as lessons and to understand them, so you can feel at ease with the others and with yourself.
Read between the lines
Whenever you deal with difficult people, take into account two aspects: you should not let their actions affect your life in a negative way and you may want to try first to understand them, rather than just to judge them.
After all, they might be fighting a battle you know nothing about.
Don't take it personally
When dealing with difficult individuals, remember that their unpleasant actions are proof of their own lifestyle and unhappiness and in no way are these related to you.
Therefore, stand your ground in the most polite way possible and do not let their behavior have a negative impact on your life.
Learn how to handle negativity
Throughout your life, you should expect to run into negative people over and over again. However, do not forget that you are the only one responsible for the way you react to their actions.
Therefore, adopting a positive attitude will most likely save you the frustration and not only, which otherwise might result from an interaction with them.
Miguel Ruiz
“Don’t take anything personally. Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.”
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