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The 3 keys to passion

The three keys to passion

  • Intimacy: Emotional closeness, communication, feeling that no one knows you better or has your back more strongly than your mate.
  • Thrill: Excitement, attraction, adventure.
  • Sensuality: The entire spectrum from kissing goodnight to holding hands, from making tender love to raw passion.

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    A strong romantic relationship

    Extraordinary couples are like everyone else. Except they make their love intentional.

    In business, fitness, or even your hobby, you don't passively wait for things to get better. The same is true for your relationship. Don't take your partner for granted. Take action.

    The three keys to passion

    • Intimacy: Emotional closeness, communication, feeling that no one knows you better or has your back more strongly than your mate.
    • Thrill: Excitement, attraction, adventure.
    • Sensuality: The entire spectrum from kissing goodnight to holding hands, from making tender love to raw passion.

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      Commit spending two minutes at the end of the day reviewing your progress and ways to improve it.

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