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- Narcissists use praise in place of love. At the core of the narcissistic personality is a flawed belief that praise is love. In dysfunctional narcissistic families and relationships, acceptance is conditional and praise is used instead of love. Using praise as affection fosters insecurity in others and gives the narcissist control over their sense of relational safety and self-worth.
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- Praise we've earned can be motivating and help us build confidence.
- Narcissists may use praise to control others by manipulating their sense of self-worth and relational security.
- Narcissists may use praise as love, praise as intimacy, praise as unearned entitlement, and pr...
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We all can benefit at times from praise that we've earned. Humans are social animals who naturally seek validation from the group, and praise for our efforts can be motivating and help us build confidence that can sustain us through times of trial and adversity. But praise used as a substitute fo...
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2. Narcissists "love-bomb" with praise to fake intimacy . Love and intimacy are developed through reciprocity, shared vulnerability, and earned trust. Intimacy should never be ...
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Understanding Praise
- Praise is not love. Praise is conditional and may be offered or withheld. Love, particularly of a child, must be freely given regardless of performance, behavior, or "status." Love is always there. Praise comes and goes.
- Praise can only be granted by others....
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As we know, the narcissistic personality tends to be relationally antagonistic: competitive, exploitative, and oppressively controlling. Narcissists themselves of...
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3. Narcissists treat praise as entitlement. People, particularly children, who are reinforced for their efforts internalize a sense of agency and earned confidence , which fosters
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