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How to mentor and support other women - and help them succeed

A mentor's real purpose

More than giving directions, a mentor is supposed to provide the so-called pieces of supportive advice, which will enable the mentee to make up her or his mind, based on their own beliefs.

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Find a matching mentee

If you decide on becoming a mentor, you might want to consider choosing a mentee who shares your interests. It will make everyone's life easier. Moreover, you will also be able to provide more useful pieces of information, that is to say, to fulfill your duty as mentor.

Building effective mentoring relationships

Mentoring requires having a clear idea of how the sessions themselves are to happen. 

Make sure that from the very beginning you communicate to your mentee exactly how all is going to take place: how often, where, how, etc. Get to know the other and use all the means you dispose of in order to help him or her reach the desired goal.

A mentor's real purpose

More than giving directions, a mentor is supposed to provide the so-called pieces of supportive advice, which will enable the mentee to make up her or his mind, based on their own beliefs.

Draw the line when the time comes

When you are a mentor, you do your best to help your mentee to fulfill his or her goal. 

However, sometimes you can not provide the other with everything that is necessary or maybe you two just do not match as working partners. And this is when a line has to be drawn and the truth has to be spoken so people can make the right decision.

Empowering your mentee

Mentoring has as ultimate goal the fact of making the mentee feel more self-confident and aware that he or she can achieve whatever planned. 

In order for this to happen, it is the mentor's duty to lead the mentee to the right questions, but not to the answers themselves.

Mentoring is no motherhood related

Mentoring is, in no way, a synonym for motherhood. Therefore, if you are a mentor, bear in mind that your mentees are not your children. 

You will do a great favor both to yourself and to them, by making sure that they behave responsibly and know their part.

The joy of being a mentor

Being a mentor means, above all, having a feeling of accomplishment when your mentee has reached the desired goal. Moreover, having succeeded to establish a great relationship throughout the working sessions can only lead to more joy.

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What Makes a Good Mentor
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  • Prepared to commit time and energy to the mentoring relationship.
  • Have the relev...
What Makes a Good Mentee
  • He's committed to expanding capabilities and focused on achieving professional results.
  • Clear about their career goals, needs, and wants.
  • Willing to ask for help.
  • Able to seek and accept positive or negative feedback.
  • Personally responsible and accountable.
  • Ready, willing, and able to meet on a regular basis.
The Mentoring Relationship

To develop a successful mentoring relationships:

  • Design the Alliance. Both parties must have an agreement on the contact and response times, meetings, confidentiality, focus, feedback, and goals and accountability.
  • Get to Know Each Other. It is important to have a strong relationship and trust before focusing on the problem.
  • Set the Agenda. Be clear on the purpose and goals of the program.
  • Reflect and Evaluate. Know if there is a progress or development gained from the mentoring every few meetings.
  • Closeout. Before parting ways, have a closure with each other. Reflect and appreciate what both parties have learned and gained from the experience.
A Good Mentee
A Good Mentee

Having the right mentor or ‘Guru’ in our life can change one's entire trajectory. It’s common to see people labelled as good mentors, but rare for anyone to make themselves into good mentees.

Characteristics Of Mentorability
  1. Valuing the most precious resource being provided by the mentor: Time.
  2. Being clear about one’s expectations and objectives, so that the most suitable and effective guidance is provided.
  3. Being open to input, advice, criticism and feedback, ready to hear things you wouldn’t normally want to hear.
  4. Expressing Gratitude.
  5. Self-assessing yourself as a good mentee, committing to the partnership.
  6. Expecting the unexpected, and learning from it.
Mentoring and Coaching

The terms mentoring and coaching are often mistakenly interchanged. Although they are similar, they are not the same when it comes to approach.

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History and Definition of Mentorship

The word "mentor" was first used in Homer's epic poem "The Odyssey" when Odysseus entrusted the care of his kingdom to Mentor who served as a teacher and overseer to Odysseus' son.

This is where mentor was derived meaning "a trusted councelor or guide."

Why Seek Out a Mentor

A mentor is not someone who gives you direct answers, but someone who challenges you to know the right answer. 

And in life, you can't be spoon-fed all the time. The role of a mentor is to guide you and give you the wisdom in knowing the answer.

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Unleash Latent Potential

It is normal for a mentee to fear showing what he is capable of, that's why the mentor's job is to help his mentee break the rock that hinders him in showing his potential

It is...

Dos and Don'ts for Mentor and Mentee

The mentor should..

  • make sure that his mentee is being able to follow what's going on.
  • understand that all mentees are not the same.
  • guide the mentees to arrive at a solution.
  • not discourage his mentee with frequent negative feedback.
  • help with removing fear.

The mentee should..

  • not expect mentors to be solution providers.
  • do his best to learn and maximize his potential.
  • be open to negative feedback and improve himself.
Deliver it for the Right Reason

Providing truly useful advice starts by coming from a selfless place. If you have ulterior motives, stop while you’re ahead. 

Keep it real. Using real-life experience ...

Read the Room
  • Determine whether the person you’re talking to is open to receiving your advice. Is she literally asking for it? 
  • If there’s no concrete question, assess her body language. Is she leaning into your conversation, does she seem engaged, eager to hear what you have to say? 
Understand Your Target

Establish if the person in need of advice would prefer anecdotes, personal stories, short takeaways, specific examples, or fuller context. 
Also, acknowledge the state of mind she or he is in—crisis mode or planning mode? 

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Mentoring

Mentoring is about being able pass knowledge to someone who would benefit from it.

Mentoring programs usually have four key elements:

  • Improving performance
The Roles of a Mentor
  • M-anage the relationship
  • E-ncourage
  • N-urture
  • T-each
  • O-ffer mutual respect
  • R-espond to the learner's needs
Different Roles of the Mentor
  • Learning Consultant: The mentor must help the learner to clarify his goals and identify the learning style needed.
  • Coach: The mentor should have the will to help the learner explore the problem and try new ways of working.
  • Counselor: When the learner is struggling to think, the mentor could listen, reflect, and clarify to help the learner gain insight.
  • Adviser or Information Resource: Share insights with the learner for faster and better understanding.
  • Role Model: Sometimes, the learner does not only learn from what the mentor teaches, but from how the mentor acts.
  • Critical Friend: The mentor can also simply be a friend, however, it is the most difficult because it requires the willingness to listen, encourage, draw out, reflect, challenge, and provide feedback about ideas.

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Mentoring

... is not about negotiating with someone to teach you, but a two-way street. It takes time to build that connection needed to be able to teach and learn.

Mentor #1: The Master of Craft

They are like actual Jedi masters who possess wisdom acquired from experiences.

Turn to this person when you need advice about launching a new initiative or brainstorming where you should work next

Mentor #2: The Champion of Your Cause

They could not just be your personal mentor but could also be your link to other useful people in the industry.

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Forgetting the First Language

While our brains are flexible and adaptable as children, we tend to start having more rigid learning and relearning skills as we grow old.

There have been some extreme cases when the mother t...

Trauma associated with a Language

One of the reasons for forgetting a language is the trauma associated with speaking a particular language: The mind recalls the bad experiences while the language is heard or spoken.

The Switch Mechanism

Once a person is able to speak two or more languages, the mind has to create a mechanism to switch between those seamlessly.

Switching a language is not like forgetting, but if there is too much back and forth, the competition starts between the two languages.

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Being A Great Mentor

Being an effective mentor for employees can help them hone their talents and skills, as well as make them feel more connected and involved in the organization.

When employees get personalize...

Find a unique connection

Build and maintain a unique connection with the employee, using your listening skills and attention to detail. Avoid the one-size-fits-all approach.

Assign Peer Mentors

Make other people who are good at a particular task mentor the newcomers for on-boarding, reducing your load and helping the new joiners. This also builds trust among the mentors, making it a win-win situation.

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