Start Being Committed - Deepstash

deepstash

Beta

Get an account to save ideas & make your own & organize them how you wish.

deepstash

Beta

zen habits

Start Being Committed

Ignite your committed self:

  • Observe and realize that your commitment levels need to be corrected.
  • Check your true desire to commit, if it feels right, and if you have space and energy to uphold and sustain the commitment.
  • See if you can bet something substantial to uphold this commitment.
  • Take action and create a winning environment around you.
  • Start with a relatively small commitment.
  • Do whatever it takes to never break a promise to yourself again.

319 SAVES


This is a professional note extracted from an online article.

Read more efficiently

Save what inspires you

Remember anything

IDEA EXTRACTED FROM:

zen habits

zen habits

https://zenhabits.net/the-heartbreaking-effects-of-being-only-partly-committed-to-most-things/

zenhabits.net

3

Key Ideas

We Lack Commitment

No matter what we tell ourselves, we are not committed fully towards most things. We tend to be different people, committing to change our diet, exercise or start on a certain goal, only to become someone different and get distracted, or simply procrastinate.

We are not fully committed to ourselves or even to other people.
We let ourselves and others down break promises, and this is affecting us and everyone around us.

Effects of Being Uncommitted

Some effects of not being committed:

  • We lose trust in ourselves and create a negative self-image.
  • We tend to shrink and hide in our comfort zones.
  • We lose the trust of our friends and family.
  • We see that people don't trust us and feel guilty.

Start Being Committed

Ignite your committed self:

  • Observe and realize that your commitment levels need to be corrected.
  • Check your true desire to commit, if it feels right, and if you have space and energy to uphold and sustain the commitment.
  • See if you can bet something substantial to uphold this commitment.
  • Take action and create a winning environment around you.
  • Start with a relatively small commitment.
  • Do whatever it takes to never break a promise to yourself again.

SIMILAR ARTICLES & IDEAS:

You are not your thoughts

Most of us will do anything not to feel worried or dissatisfied and will try and find ways to soothe ourselves or find ways out of our problems.

However, the key to healing and understanding ...

Separate thoughts from the act of thinking

We usually buy into what our feelings tell us and allow them to overly direct our actions and choices. 

Instead, notice the act of thinking without getting tangled in your thoughts. See your thoughts as ongoing attempts to make meaning of the world — give them power only to the degree that they help you. 

Disobey yourself on purpose

The mind's power over you is an illusion. For instance, say one thing while doing the opposite. You will find that it is possible to do the opposite of what you are thinking. (For example, type, I cannot type this sentence, while you are typing the sentence.) Regularly doing this exercise can give you more freedom to do hard things.

4 more ideas

Time is Limited Yet Abundant

Most of us conflict with time. Time is a paradox and is both limited and abundant at the same time. We can do great things with time, provided we know how to use this invis...

Use Time Intentionally

Once we realize that every moment is a gift, we will not waste it but use it intentionally, for something important and meaningful.

It is important that we set some clear priorities and create space for them. 

Contemplating Death

This exercise makes us value our limited time and sheds away the unnecessary activities from our day. 

We start living a vivid life, and slow down, becoming fully present in the moment, savoring time like a limited edition treat before it vanishes.

one more idea

Defensiveness and toxic shame
Defensiveness and toxic shame

Toxic shame is an emotion that most of us get to know throughout our lifetime: deep inside, we feel that we have failed ourselves or the others.

The actual issue, when...

Obsessed with perfection

Anybody who is obsessed with the idea of being perfect will most probably end up having a major frustration. To put it simply, making mistakes is just natural for us, humans.

On the other, even though feeling ashamed for what you have done is quite upsetting, not taking responsibility or pretending to be someone you are not is way worse.

Shame and apologies

When making a mistake, some individuals find it extremely difficult to admit and apologize. This often leads to misunderstandings and even more tense relationships.

On the contrary, self-confident people will freely admit whenever they have made a mistake or have been wrong about something, as self development is possible only by acknowledging our own weaknesses.

one more idea

“Your sacred space is where you can find yourself again and again.”
Joseph Campbell
The Elements of Ritual
  • Create your environment, because it will affect your practice.
  • As you start, set an intention for the ritual.
  • Bring presence and full appreciation to the act.
  • Rituals can be a space for contemplating what’s important to you.
  • Close in gratitude for whatever you just did.
Rituals to Consider
  • Start your day with intention, gratitude and reflection.
  • Email & messages: Transform them into a ritual of connecting to others, of carefully considering issues, of crafting language.
  • Exercise: Bring it to be an act of love for your body, an act of connection to your environment, an act of full presence.
  • Meditation: Make it a simple ritual of full appreciation for the moment.
  • Sleep: Make it a time when you reflect on your day, prepare for your time of rest, slow down and appreciate your life.
William James

“Wisdom is the art of knowing what to overlook.”

William James
The 2 kinds of distractions
  • Sensory distractions (External): The things happening around us, like colleagues talking, phones ringing, people moving around us, music playing, etc.
  • Emotional distractions (Internal): The thoughts that make our attention drift from what we’re doing. For example, remembering a phone call you need to make or thinking about a future meeting.
Daniel Goleman
Daniel Goleman

“It’s not the chatter of people around us that is the most powerful distractor, but rather the chatter of our own minds.”

4 more ideas

Stop Lying Yourself

People tend to let themselves off the hook and take the easy way out much more often than they realize. Often, we hold on to an image or identity that we have of ourselves and let that image distor...

Being Productive Through Tracking

When you don’t track your habits you’re more likely to talk yourself out of certain activities when you don’t feel like doing them. Tracking reminds and confronts you with your failures, effectively punishing you.

Tracking also gamefies your habits, providing extra motivation to being consistent. That sets a chain reaction of benefits in motion that starts to become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Effectively Tracking Habits
  • You can use tracking apps, sheets or a journal to track your behavior.
  • Decide which habits you want to track.
  • Decide on a timeframe for tracking.
  • Set a target for how many times you want to successfully follow each habit in your chosen timeframe.
  • Decide on which days you want to do which habits, or even schedule it in your calendar.
  • Mark successful and unsuccessful habit executions.

one more idea

Unresolved conflicts

The idea that couples must communicate and resolve all of their problems is a myth. The truth is, trying to resolve a conflict can sometimes create more problems than it fixes.

Being honest

The last person you should ever have to censor yourself with is the person you love.

It’s important to make something more important in your relationship than merely making each other feel good all of the time. The feel-good stuff happens when you get the other stuff right.

Being willing to end it

Romantic sacrifice is idealized in our culture. 

Sometimes the only thing that can make a relationship successful is ending it at the appropriate time, before it becomes too damaging. And the willingness to do that allows us to establish the necessary boundaries to help ourselves and our partner grow together.

3 more ideas

How we may be numbing our feelings
  • Procrastination and running to distractions.

  • Social media, messaging & online reading.

  • Video games.

  • TV & watching v...

“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence then, is not an act, but a habit.” 

Aristotle

“Motivation is what gets you started. Habit is what keeps you going.”

“Motivation is what gets you started. Habit is what keeps you going.”

Taking On Two Or More Habits At Once

No matter how much enthusiasm we have for the goals, taking on even just two habits at once is setting ourselves up for failure, because greatly increases the difficulty of sticking to it.

Pick only one habit to change and devote all of your energy to that, and once it’s on autopilot, move on to the next one.

12 more ideas

Mental States

It’s really important to monitor mental states. They will usually affect whether we do our exercise, eat healthy, binge watch TV shows, drink alcohol, eat junk food, or are open-hearted (or ...

Moving Into a Mental State
  1. Recognize that you’re in the wrong mental state. It’s not likely to lead to a calm focus. It will lead to you doing busywork or seeking distraction.
  2. Experiment to find a set of actions that can help you move into the right mental state. This is going to be different for each person, but with some experimentation, you can discover things that work for you.
Activities For A Better Mental State
  • Meditation
  • Go for a walk
  • Get up and move around
  • Talk to someone (if you’re worried about something)
  • Having a cup of tea
  • Taking a power nap
  • Having a cup of coffee (differs for each person)
  • Getting into a quiet, uncluttered environment
  • Turning off your wifi router
  • Using full-screen writing apps
  • Playing calming music
  • Reading an inspirational quote or article
  • Talking to someone (including a therapist, if needed)
  • Bringing playfulness to the task

2 more ideas