41. A negative imagination is a dangerous, destructive device

Don't bother with people for whom decency/kindness/honesty is something they have to "work on."

Most people don't get 5through life without a few lessons , and for me, having others share theirs is one of the most incredible gifts I can receive.

Even if I don't agree with their ...

Your value does not shrink or expand in relation to how much emotion, time, or money someone else is willing to spend on you.

Rage, entitlement, and arrogance may help you break down a wall, but compassion, good manners, and a calm demeanor are the keys to getting through the door and being welcomed on the other side.

Taking pride in your work, reputation, value system and appearance is a great way to get to where you want to go much faster.

Having a healthy, happy, and loving relationship (with yourself and then someone else) is.

It's about being intelligent, honest, kind, self-respecting, decent, and drop-dead smart. That's gorgeous.

This will always be the right choice.

When it's over, you'll wish you put down that phone and paid closer attention and you won't care about those petty arguments.

Those who love you care when they hurt you, even when they didn't mean to.

If you want something, you'd better work for it.

But you have to make the step to go out there and look for it

It's almost as valuable as time with someone you love.

When you say "I Love You," you are taking responsibility for your actions and suggesting you will care about another person and their feelings. If they love you like they love hot dogs and songs on their playlist, that's not going to do much for you long-term.

Happiness may not always be as easy as making a choice to be happy, but we always have a choice as to how to filter situations we find ourselves in. Is it proof the universe hates us or is it just life?

This is why you have your very own body, mind, and soul.

Every day we make a choice to go out and play or stare at a wall where the past is hanging.

Life is hard enough without having to spend it with hard people.

No one is living a perfect life, they just have perfect moments like you and me. Everyone has problems.

Just because you rationalize it doesn't make it right, and just because you want him doesn't make him right for you.

Beauty isn't always physical.

If you have it with someone who has not shown you respect, told you they love you, or wanted to date you before having it, it's not a good idea to expect the act alone to change the status quo.

You have to put in the work to make your dreams come true.

Sincere apologies mean something. Those friendships without them mean nothing.

Every person on this earth is a human being and all human beings were created equal, so don't look up and don't look down.

Your heart can be mistaken but your gut is always right , even when you don't want it to be.

People who cannot communicate effectively, clearly, and respectfully tend to live very difficult lives.

Aside from your actions and reactions, you can't control it, whatever it is.

Change your actions, reactions, and the way you put yourself out there and you'll change the way the world responds to you.

You're an intelligent, compassionate, and professional woman. Carry yourself like one and surround yourself with women who think catty is best reserved for Lindsay Lohan movies.

Love everything and everyone with kindness.

When it comes to your relationships, spend more time than money, give more compliments than criticisms, and for goodness' sake, flash your manners.

This upgrades everything in your life from your relationships to your mental stability.

In spite of what is perpetuated by romantic comedies, the truth is that you are complete all on your own , all of the time.

Forgive them for it, because you've been there too.

You're much smarter, stronger, and more capable than you think — and much less invincible.

Men who have six packs and great biceps often sustain themselves on a diet consisting of chicken and eggs and will choose the gym over date night with you. Remember that.

You really don't have to put up with all of that crap, you know?

You aren't supposed to get through life without scuffing your knees, breaking your heart, or taking a wrong turn. Lessons and sorrows are the shadings in the overall painting.

If you are living authentically and without fear, you can't please everyone (or even most people) for longer than a couple of weeks. If you find yourself proving this wrong, take it as a sign...

That's the universal truth.

The world is moving and days are passing. This can be seen as time passing us by or an ever-present opportunity to experience something new, make amends, step in a new direction, reach out, and show gratitude. Just remember that everything you want is out there and everything you need to achieve ...

Some obligations, disappointments, and heartaches are just blessings with the wrong name.

You can miss something, and still not want it back.

Don't lose friendships as you climb the ladder.

You need trust, mutual respect, and understanding to make a relationship work.

Sometimes you "win" by just deciding to stop talking, get up, and go.

Just because she is pretty or he is attractive doesn't mean you're not. Just because he or she has a great job or has met someone doesn't mean you won't. Turn that jealousy into inspiration and watch your life...

If someone gives you anxiety, excuses, a reason not to believe him/her, or anything that requires a prescription, they need to be out of your life.

Spend it working to become a baller. He or she who dates someone for money should not be surprised when they treat them poorly. How do you treat that sweater you bought three years ago?